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AIBU to have lied to get a test?

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IggyFigs · 21/01/2021 20:02

For no other reason than my peace of mind?

I don't have any symptoms, none that are even not considered Covid symptoms i.e. cold etc...

But I am pregnant and getting very close to my due date and I'm terrified that I'll turn up at the hospital and be surprised by a positive test and DH will have to leave.

I have lied that I have symptoms and ordered a home test kit purely so, on the off chance it's positive, I am prepared rather than sprung upon.

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Haenow · 21/01/2021 20:03

What’s the point? It’s only as reliable as today.

WineInTheWillows · 21/01/2021 20:05

YABU, yes.

CityDweller · 21/01/2021 20:05

A little. Not least because it skews the data

Floralnomad · 21/01/2021 20:07

In our area thy are encouraging people who are non symptomatic to have tests , you can go every 2 weeks if you want to , is this not a nationwide thing ? In your case I think your reasoning is a bit silly as if you are positive and baby is coming what’s your plan ?

Rosehip10 · 21/01/2021 20:07

Ridiculous - that test is a snapshot of your covid status as that time only. Which could change in the next hour/day

Touloser · 21/01/2021 20:08

Yabu. A test is only really valid the moment its taken. Your walk to the post box to send it off, popping to the shop, getting a takeaway etc afterwards means that result no longer reflects your present health status

WineInTheWillows · 21/01/2021 20:10

Also, FWIW, the COVID test I took in labour didn't come back until 24 hours later, by which point if had the baby and DH had had to go home anyway. If you've got a confirmed positive going in then your DH definitely won't be in at any point- if anything you're increasing your odds of having to give birth without your DH by testing beforehand.

WineInTheWillows · 21/01/2021 20:10

*I'd, not if

Mindymomo · 21/01/2021 20:14

Whether you are positive or not, you still have to give birth and your husband will still be able to be there for the actual birth.

Jellifer · 21/01/2021 20:16

Yes YABU. There are centres set up for non-symptomatic people to go and have a free lateral flow test. Use one of those as a postal one could become out of date well before you get the result.

PortChee · 21/01/2021 20:17

@Mindymomo

Whether you are positive or not, you still have to give birth and your husband will still be able to be there for the actual birth.

Unfortunately this isn't the case (or at least from what I have been told by my own midwife). If I were to go into labour, I am swabbed at the hospital and if it comes back positive, my birth partner has to leave even for labour.

emotionalpuddle · 21/01/2021 20:22

@Mindymomo

Whether you are positive or not, you still have to give birth and your husband will still be able to be there for the actual birth.

This is false information. If you test positive you give birth in the infection control unit, not the delivery suite and you have no birthing partner (for the 6 hospitals in our area).

veryhungryhippo · 21/01/2021 21:00

@CityDweller

A little. Not least because it skews the data

Genuine question, not being goady I just don't really understand, but how does it skew the data? Doesn't the number of daily tests carried out include non asymptomatic people doing tests, either cos they're part of a study or being tested at work or whatever? Or maybe they factor in that a certain number of people are just gonna want to get a test for peace of mind (whether that's right or not)? I don't understand how testing of asymptomatic people is not a good thing? Doesn't it give you a better picture of where it is or isn't?

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 21/01/2021 21:03

This is false information. If you test positive you give birth in the infection control unit, not the delivery suite and you have no birthing partner (for the 6 hospitals in our area).

Any idea what the justification is for this? Is it because the birthing partner is presumed also to be positive?

smoothchange · 21/01/2021 21:06

I'm a bit baffled by this. Nothing you have done will make any difference to what is going to happen when you go to give birth.
What's the logic?

SeasonFinale · 21/01/2021 21:07

Yes why are you "spending" NHS money. YABU.

WhoseThatGirl · 21/01/2021 21:09

YABU

yahyahs22 · 21/01/2021 21:10

Personally I don't think so no. You did it for your peace of mind. The build up to giving birth is stressful and emotional at the best of times, you do whats best for you

SeldomFollowedIt · 21/01/2021 21:11

OP if it gives you peace of mind for the time being then it’s hardly the worlds biggest crime. It must be anxiety inducing going through all this pregnant.

Can’t get worked up over one covid test tbh.

Doublechins · 21/01/2021 21:11

I am a student midwife in the North West. You would be swabbed for covid when you go in to deliver but even if it came back positive your husband would be able to stay. You would just be moved to a side room if you needed to go to the postnatal ward and kept apart from the covid neg women. This is true for the hospital I work in anyway.

Ladydowntheroad · 21/01/2021 21:14

No OP, good for you, you’re pregnant, you can definitely have a hall pass.

I was super sickly nice and law abiding with this pandemic for 9 f’ing months up until my kid got it from school because a parent didn’t want to keep their CLEARLY sick kid at home. I did nothing but watch friends and family members do whatever they wanted on a daily basis and my family took the fall for that. One of my kids in particular.

You are having a baby in a difficult time, if there’s one person who can curb the rules it’s you so go for it.

All the best with your new little one x

ekidmxcl · 21/01/2021 21:17

You can get tests whenever you want - you just have to do it privately if you want it to be above board.

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IggyFigs · 21/01/2021 21:18

Sorry just to clarify I absolutely understand that if it's negative it doesn't mean I won't be positive by the time I give birth.

I'm more thinking if it's positive, I will have time to deal with the fact that DH likely won't be there rather than just finding out at the hospital.

I have diagnosed anxiety and am on medication for this. I also have a condition which makes my labour potentially high risk (having increased antenatal checks due to this too) so I am just panicking so much about DH not being there and things going wrong. I'm just so scared and feel like if the worst case scenario happened, it would benefit me to have time to process it?

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Scottishskifun · 21/01/2021 21:20

I don't think it's unreasonable at all especially given your pregnant.
Once you get results try and stay in your safe bubble if possible so online delivery if you can etc.

We got tests done in the summer before my parents visited as my dad is high risk. It was allowed as we are key workers/civil servants and my DH had been into a positive business 5 days before but mostly we did it for peace of mind.

WanderingMilly · 21/01/2021 21:20

You can have a test though, even if you don't have symptoms, just to check you don't have COVID. I had to have two tests before a hospital appointment, I didn't have any symptoms but had the tests anyway, they were negative. They were NHS tests, no problem....

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