Struggling tonight . Dsis’ carers have said we can’t see her until social distancing becomes less necessary, she’s severely autistic and can’t socially distance really . She can’t come round, as she’d need to use our loo (she gets very anxious if no toilet available), she can’t go out for a long walk as no public toilets . She’s not even able to visit her friends gardens due to it all . Carers think she’d get very upset if she came round and realised she couldn’t hug us or sit in the house . For the same reason they’ve asked us not to come through until management agree it’s completely safe/very very low risk of corona . We only live 6 miles away so it’s not exactly far, which feels worse I think .
I totally understand carers’ perspective and I know they’re caring for dozens of adults including care homes via bank shifts, some also do prison and hospital shifts . So I know there’s a lot to consider ... but DM is getting more and more desperate to see her, and struggling - and I can’t see a way of making it any easier . We’ve not seen her now for 4 months . Tried FaceTime and sending packages etc but that’s not helping hugely on either side .
I know no one can say how long but I’m starting to wonder if we’re probably best expecting to not really see her for at least another 2 or 3 months .
She’s not seeming too unhappy, she’s having meltdowns with her staff over masks but getting a lot of nhs help over the phone . Just totally unsure what to do .