Very long story has meant that DCs recently went a long time (maybe 6 weeks) without seeing their dad. Short story is that dad has a history of using the children as weapons against me and wouldnt give assurances they would be returned after agreed contact, given the current situation.
Having finally got these formal assurances, children went for first contact this weekend. They have returned saying that their dad had his girlfriend and her dd to stay overnight while they were there, with the daughter sharing a room with my DCs.
They definitely do not live there, in fact they live about 50 miles away. I know this is against the rules, no question, but given we have only just reestablished contact, do I make a major deal about this or let it go for the sake of harmony?
For the record I'm really pissed off about it, but a history of abuse with this man makes me constantly question how rational I am being.
Sorry if any of this is garbled, I'm cooking the tea while I type!