What are you finding toughest about lockdown?

[yearinyearout]

For me, it's not seeing my DS. He's a student but he's on work placement this year, and they are still working. Normally he would be home at weekends but he's obviously not able to travel now. Doesn't help knowing that he's lonely either, he has housemates but is only on polite terms with them. Can't wait for him to be able to come home for the weekend!

As a lazy introvert I’m loving it.
But lockdown for me is only my days off from work so it’s a guilt free couple of days of pottering about, cleaning, sorting, gardening, laundry on the line, homeschooling and reading with/to my son.

All crammed into a day or sometimes two.

Think I may feel differently if it were full time lockdown though.

The clapping.

Being unable to get dental treatment for my relentless toothache.

Missing my family. No support with a 3 year old and a baby.

It's pretty monotonous.

Being at home 24/7 with my toddler. I feel guilty saying it as I obviously love him and wanted him but it is so hard being in the house with him all the time without being able to break up the day with softplays or groups or play dates or even just a long drive! When the nurseries reopen I'm taking a week off work just to decompress!

The panic and paranoia that has swept through our nation

It helps no one.

Missing my partner

Nothing at the moment. I'm quite enjoying it.

Not being able to just go into whatever shops I want and browse and spend money I don’t NEED to spend. So shallow but that’s really the only thing I miss. I am not very social and am quite happy at home otherwise. No relatives etc. I just hate the whole queuing outside Tesco for half an hour just to get in etc. And I want to go to a garden centre and buy plants!

My DS7 is finding it a bit lonely and misses school and friends.
I’m ok if he’s ok.

@Bagelsandbrie aren't any of your garden centres doing delivery?

Not having a garden with a 3 year old. I honestly just feel trapped. The 3 year old is used to being outside most of the day at childcare so this is a massive adjustment for them. It is a real struggle. 1 exercise slot where we go for a long walk just isn't cutting it.

“Exercise” that’s supposed to be enjoyable and make you feel better.

It’s just bloody stressful. We cross over the road, but have to climb a stile to get on the footpath, well that’s full of danger as we have to touch the stile to get over it. Might be covered with the virus. The next hurdle is the brook with no “bridge” as such - what if one of the kids twists their ankle or slips and breaks something? Can’t call the emergency services, as will be forever guilty that 12 virus calls can’t be answered while they’re coming out to tend to a twisted ankle. And all this before we’ve even got a quarter of a mile.

Alternative is to walk round the hosing estate. Very nice estate, but we’ve been in lockdown 25 days and got at least 25 to go. It’s wearing a bit thin.

@yearinyearout no sadly I live quite rurally and although there are some little farm shops doing deliveries the main garden centres are miles and miles away... looking forward to a day trip when I can go again!

Hiking.
Hairdressers.
Nipping into bars for a cheeky one at 4pm

I don't particularly mind lockdown. The worst thing is probably not playing sport. Followed by not going out for a meal and not having my cleaner. All sounds a bit spoilt really.

One of my children is autistic and has very challenging behaviour. It's been at times a disaster and so distressing. I am exhausted from trying to fire fight every day and keep my other children safe. But at least we are safe at home and we have a garden. So I suppose I miss the routine from before as despite my best efforts I can not replicate as it's not the same for her x

DD lying in bed till the afternoon every day. She is a final year student with a dissertation to write and finals coming up. If she was away at uni I'd have no idea what she was or wasn't doing.

Trying to work full time with an SEN child at home
Just feeling trapped really with no respite as have to drag him outdoors when I do go for a walk.

Homeschooling I’m already dreading Monday again.

The claustrophobia of not being able to move forward in any way - I am out of work but looking for a new job seems very difficult / impossible (understandably).

Not being able to meet friends for coffee.

The loneliness (despite living with my dc - but I am a single parent).

The fear and uncertainty about the future.

Not being able to put myself in any kind of situation where I might meet a new partner.

The monotony in terms of leisure - eg can’t break up park visits with visits to a museum for example - just for a change.

Being worried about two of my three teens who NEVER leave the house for a walk. Worrying about all of their excessive screen time. At least online school starts again next week! (I know this is also screen time, but at least with a purpose!!)

But all of this is nothing compared to the pain and suffering people are experiencing, and the trauma that they are going through. That we are all going through.

The biggest thing I miss is my family. I had a baby on 23rd of March and I'm desperate to introduce her to the family. Also my 3you is missing the interaction, especially with my parents.

I also miss just being able to pop to the shop if I fancy a snack, something different for tea or if we run out of something.

Can’t get to the gym ...can’t stop eating ..well up till yesterday when I actually managed a whole day on a diet ..real wow moment for me ..

But actually,the guilt is the worst ,IM full of guilt For the people working on front line ,that I’m doing nothing other than keeping my family in the house as required..I’ve 2 dc with autism ,pda ,adhd ,they can’t be left alone ,so my hands are tied ,and I feel so bloody guilty,I even feel guilty when I see people have died ,guilty I’m still alive .