TTC and TWW, AF due 5th March - can you help me keep my sanity?

[Cozie]

Hi

Im now 9 days past ovulation with a BFN using first response this morning yet my breast are unusually large. They are quite painful from right after ovulation until AF.

My husband and I have been TTC since Dec 08 and MC at 14 weeks in June, now almost 9 months ago, i am of course dissapointed when AF arrives each month but what kills me more is this dreaded TWW

Would be keen to vent my 'phantom' symptoms with aynone else

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Hi to you, ahh the TWW, this month i had automatically passed of any hope so had not even thought about the TWW and then bingo.

Perhaps it may work to always think nah, not this month so the tww is not so bad.

Sending you love and luck

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Aww Lucy

Thankyou very much

the ladies on here are all so supportive, no matter each of our positions we are in the right hands!

Af came on the 4th in the end and was due again 29th but it didn't arrive. Just goes to show it cab happen ant time, a saving grace for me is my 25 day cycle! Although the tww was hell it's shorter than most

how are you getti g on?

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Thanks Cozie Yes, that's really good advice, although so hard to follow!

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Lucy,

This month Dh and I had been astaining from you know, as he needed to provide two samples
for testing and was told no sex for 3 days before his pot experiance, so from the 4th first day of af we didn't get round to it until the 12th and once again in the 15th. Because we didn't catch last month having sex
10 times, I thought what bloody chance we got this month!

So ... (I'm getting there)... I didn't
test for ov or use preseed at all unlike how I did religiously the mth before, along with bloody yoga positions to keep it up there!!

I use an I phone app which gives you green days, fertile days, with ov day pinpointed at the 15th. We had sex 12th and 14th.

I guess as with other mths I ovulate on day
11 and then a 14'day leutal.

As I'd cast this month to a side so to speak I hadn't even thought about testing until evening of af was due, what a more pleasurable experiance than the bfn
everyday from 6 days before af due, as had been with the last 9 !!!

So perhaps as much as I f ing hate cliches

the old one of " it happens when you least expect it" rings true here.

Hope this helps, apols for any spelling, grammar issues, using iPhone

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19 degrees !!! Lovely ! It is supposed to snow here this week.

When i visited my accupuncturist he said am i charting and id said too that i was driving me around the bend knowing what day it was and when, all this numbers, i becamelike Rainman, so he said to relax more to forget the count, of which is easiest said than done.

On his advice though i leanred how to relax, he asked me what do i do to relax and i couldnt tell him.

What with a full time jobm running a house and a husband, a glass of wine is as far as i get.

I took up 'active relaxation' :

Yoga
Acupuncutre
Baths with candles (though they used to bore me to death)
Using self hypnosis, with an ipohone or i pod download them, you use counting methods to drift off into a deep state of relaxtaion.

You know how you always here, '' we had three rounds of ivf , couldnt afford anymore and gave up and then BINGO'

This is normally because the pressure is off and they have resided to the fact they may never be parents, as soon as the mind has space for a baby it lets you concieve.

Bored yet???

My Dr once said to me, if you are contacntly on the go and your mind always whirring, your body thinks'' im too busy for a baby''

It is also rewarding to be able to leave the washing up and just get in the bath, for you and for conception!

Enjoy your break Lucy

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Keep me updated on your time out period.

I hate cliches and when we mc it was constanly cliche cliche cliche

your time will come
good things happen to those who waitThey happen when you least expect it
you need to relax more!

How about fcuk off?

Well me, I feel absolutley normal (does normal exist)

Dh has gone away for over a week a skiing holiday, was never my thing. I have the house to myself, well the fishes and I.

I decided to by them to fill a void and only had them beg of March now not sure if we are handed a baby how id cope with them, but again helped me not to think about the days blah blah.

So im off to the in laws for dinner and then home to bed,

Looking forward to lots of sleep and knowing the house is exactly the way i left it.

A stress free week !

My breast are sore to sleep and enlarging but no other pains, sickness ...

One could get paranoid here and think, ahhhhh is everything okay but thats something else to fret about.

Everyone is different.

Enjoy whats left of the easter break...,

And get a fish!

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my tank is cycling, poor fishes being exposed to ammonia created by their own poop !

i hope it hurrys up before i start to think im a poor fishkeeper

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Hello how was your break?

Yes testng and doing. Pwc every other day and only feeding every third day with tetra crisps, supposed to be brilliant !

The tank is a life 45 so comes all together with filter and pump, I am going to change the filter in a week it so, don't want to loose the good bac though. Only been in a month !

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