Secondary Infertility Referral

[NiftySheep]

Hi all,

I just had my referral come through to explore for Secondary Infertility, and wondered if anyone was in the same boat.
Been trying since April 2025, we have had two miscarriages during that time but nothing since the last in February. I have wonder if there's some scarring etc from my D&C as periods are super short and light since.

I'm 35 and have a DC who is 3.5years, we conceived pretty much straight away.

Feel I can't talk to do many people about this because I can't stand their pity.

Every sympathy, it's tough. I guess you need to discuss if you would do IVF, and if you can afford it? As won't be NHS funded.

I’m in the same position as you but abit younger. I f29 my partner male 30 are currently undergoing fertility treatments. Currently in 1st round of letrozole. We did all the tests , SA , Hycosy , blood tests and a scan. All came back fine. We’ve been trying for a long time 4years with 1 chemical and 1 TFMR. I have children but my partner doesn’t. My doctor said the law changed in 2024 that some hospitals under certain boroughs do IVF for couples without children even if you have them before. So I would do research. Because all of our tests came back fine I won’t be doing ivf from personal choice. I’m sorry your in this horrible boat too x

Thank you. Our preference is not to do IVF, not necessarily for the cost but the physical / emotional strain that is involved, and without a guaranteed outcome!

Thanks for sharing, good to know what tests they have done and I think that's my primary reason just to understand if there's something from the tests or just bad luck! We don't want to explore IVF but almost gives an answer on whether to keep trying or whether to accept it'll be very unlikely

Yeah get the tests done. I actually had the chemical the same month I had the hycosy. I’m sorry it’s really rough. And it’s shit tbh. No sugar coating it it’s just shit. Wish u all the best ❤️❤️❤️