Feeling deflated after cycle 5 trying for baby number two

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We’re officially out of the latest attempt for baby # 2. Had some really cruel EVAP lines on the easy @ home tests which was insult to injury, I guess my own fault for testing but I can’t help it!!

Onto cycle 5 of trying, I know it’s relatively early still but feeling super deflated and just looking for solidarity really and a pick me up! Nobody knows we are trying and it’s hard to turn to friends or family who all got pregnant on their first goes! It took us 9 months for our son so I know it can happen, even if the road is longer than we’d like, but I’m just wondering how on earth we will get through!!

any wise words appreciated xx

Sorry no wise words, but in the same boat on cycle #7 TTC number 2.

So much more challenging to schedule everything when you already have one, it's so tiring!

I know it’s hard and I completely understand why you’re feeling this way, but try to remember how blessed you are to have a loving, committed partner who wants the same thing and is on this journey with you.

Being able to conceive, carry a pregnancy and have a healthy child is something so many women sadly don’t get the chance to experience, so you really do have so much to be grateful for.

You already have your beautiful boy and now it’s just a matter of time for baby #2. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and let things happen in their own time. I truly believe it will happen for you soon! ❤️

Thank you both for replying to this! Sorry my reply is late as I’ve been taking some time off these forums to try and get my head straight 🤦🏽‍♀️

How are you doing?! It’s so hard scheduling it all, feels like such a mixed bag of emotions. Currently in the 2WW again and just feel like this isn’t the one as I don’t think we timed it right ! Xx

This was honestly such a joy to read and has made me feel so much better. Thank you for taking the time to reply, will never fail to amaze me how strangers on the internet can help me so much! Xx

Sympathies OP.

When I had my first baby we conceived on Cycle 1
so I assumed it would be the same when we tried for baby number two.

Conceiving him took 11 cycles (including a miscarriage) and it was so emotionally draining.

But we got there in the end and it was worth the wait.

I wish you lots of luck and I hope you get your positive result soon xx

I'm ok. It's rather frustrating that I don't ovulate until around CD20, so I'm currently in the cycle where I can do nothing between my period and fertile week. It makes it really drag tbh and I then tend to get stressed

Trying to distract myself this cycle. It's my birthday tomorrow and on Friday I have the results on the fertility tests so hoping that shows everything is ok. Also focusing on eating healthily and losing some weight gradually to try and take my mind off of things.

Trying to avoid social media - I know it's the algorithm but seeing multiple people online getting pregnant isn't the vibe right now!

Fingers crossed for your two week wait - I think sometimes the cycles when you don't time things perfectly are the ones that work sometimes!

This gives me hope so thank you! The uncertainty of it all is the hardest part and feeling like we will never get there but I know I have to remain positive! Sending lots of love to you 🥰

I am in a similar boat and ovulate later!!! So frustrating and feels like the time just drags. Happy birthday for tomorrow 🩷 I hope you can enjoy and let your hair down. We’ve just come back from 2 weeks in Wales with family and went to a festival and it was great to just forget for a little while… now back to reality!!

What fertility tests did you get? I think we might get some done soon!

I agree with social media, I’ve deleted Instagram and Facebook, tik tok I’ve kept as I don’t have anyone on there I know so feels more like an escape than seeing the people I know in real life!! It’s so hard as I’m so happy for them but simultaneously a bit sad that things haven’t happened for us yet!!!

Same to you, hopefully you will get that positive OPK soon! Xxx

We just got a scan, some blood tests and a SA. Paid privately as I wanted them quickly rather than arguing with the GP!

To be honest I thought with shelling out for testing that we might have had our positive last month between paying and the appointment, but no such luck!

Still over a week to go until I might even see a positive! So frustrating