12th cycle trying: when did you first get a faint positive?

[Shankell]

I'm 9 dpo today ( 3 weeks 1 day since my last cycle started ) and tested negative. This is my 12th cycle trying, I did have a miscarriage at 5 weeks in December. When was your first faint positives please?

Try to relax, OP (easier said than done, I know).

For us it took over a year to conceive DS. I then had several miscarriages in the following years, one at 14-15 weeks, all after ‘faint positives’ on the tests. So IME a faint positive is not necessarily a good sign, as it seemed to mean my hormone levels were not showing fully embedded pregnancies that were strong enough to go to full term. DSis had the same experience.

I was lucky enough to have DD in my 40s, and I believe that was down to more or less giving up on having another baby and just having sex when we felt like it, without all the pressure of charts and dates. This also happened to a friend who’d been categorically told she had no hope of ever conceiving again, and was delighted to discover she was pregnant at 40.

I honestly believe the constant cycle of hope and tension and bitter disappointment can be enough to throw your body off balance, esp when combined with other factors like work stress. If you’re really concerned, maybe ask your partner to get tested, just to ensure everything’s good, but otherwise letting go of the pressure and the constant counting might help a lot.