Third chemical pregnancy in a row, feeling deflated

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Hi all. Found out I was pregnant three days ago, however tests have been getting progressively lighter rather than darker. I'm now just waiting for bleeding to start. This will be third chemical pregancy in a row, my fourth loss overall.

I am 29, DH is 30. Both healthy (normal weights, neither of us smoke or do drugs and we only drink very occasionally). We do have 2 healthy DC who I'm so grateful for as we know there are many who can't have any. But we so long for a third. I had my coil removed in March, fell pregnant almost right away but it ended in a chemical pregnancy. Fell pregnant again in June, again ended in a chemical. And now today, third chemical. I also suffered a MMC back in 2018 (pregnancy stopped developing at 8 weeks but I didn't find out until 12 week scan and had to have a D&C).

I just feel so deflated and like giving up. I know chemicals are very common but to have 3 in a row?? I have regular periods and clearly do ovulate and fall pregnant easily, but can't seem to stay pregnant 😔

Any advice? Thank you.

So sorry to read this. I can’t offer advice, only solidarity. I’ve just had my second in a row. Started trying in May and had a chemical, didn’t ovulate during June and then a chemical last week. I’m assuming it’s our body’s way of making sure only the best eggs get through, and maybe we wouldn’t know without early tests.
I’m not going to worry until 6 months even though I’m 40. I think health professionals would probably not be too concerned.

You can get pregnant. You just need to wait for it to be the best egg and sperm is the way I’m looking at it.