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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Everybody around me seems to be having babies and its not happening for me

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 16:59

Its so unfair. I have a daughter at the moment and dh and i have been trying since August. My friend has just found out she is pregnant and doesnt know if she wants to keep it. All my mates who have kids the same age as my dd are either pregnant again or have had their second baby.

Its just not fair

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WorzselMummage · 27/03/2008 17:04

I know how you feel hun 3 of my close mates are pregnant and my sister in law is too, we've been trying for 2 years and have recently had a miscarriage. It's completly alienated me from my friends and i cant see sil without crying.
Lifes a bitch eh !

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 27/03/2008 17:04

It's not about fair, even though it feels like it.

How are you going about ttc? Apart from sex of course! ie how are you checking for ovulation?

fruitloopwants79eastereggs · 27/03/2008 17:06

I honestly thought I had just written that without realising! I have also been TTC since Aug with no luck. Everyone - and I mean EVERYONE around me is preg. It's not fair I totally agree with you. I also have a friend who conceived "by accident" from just being careless ONCE!!!! How the hell does that happen?????????? When we've been BDing virtually everyother day or every three days since aug and nothing!!!! It does turn me into a bitter and jealous girl

I feel your pain profsturg!!!!!!!

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 18:44

sex every second day and using OPK. had blood tests done on tuesday just need to wait on the results

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wannaBe · 27/03/2008 18:48

7 months is no time to be ttc really. it can take a healthy, fertile couple up to a year to conceive, I know it's a clichet, but relax, because if you don't and it takes a long time to conceive the you will find it harder to handle.

Lauriefairycake · 27/03/2008 18:57

started period today 3 days late when I am never late (one cycle has been 34 days and the next cycle 31 days for last two years).

So that means that now both cycles are 34 days and since I was assuming that was only ovulating alternate cycles (on the short, 31 day cycle) todays fun means I've probably now stopped ovulating.

Been going without contraception for 3 years, been really keeping an eye on it for 4 cycles using ovulation sticks and having rampant shags at the 'right' time.

Fan-fuckin-tastic - you are right, it's just not fair

Heron23 · 27/03/2008 19:38

i want to be preg now!

i see preg women everywhere!

even DS told me today that he would love to have a baby in our house - we were visiting a friend who has a newborn at the time.

DS is nearly 4 and i just love him to bits, would really love to give him a sibling.

LawksaMussy · 27/03/2008 20:04

Same situation with me - except it's been a year now... and yes everyone around me seems to be pregnant

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 22:34

Oh and to make things even worse (not only for me i have to say) ive just found out my 15 year old sister is pregnant.

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/03/2008 22:43

i am in this boat with you and everyone else we have been trying for 5 cycles now and nowt yet, people keep 'announcing' their 'surprise' pregs and i sit with a permanent grin on my face to avoid the inevitable rage-river of filthy language that would be forthcoming without the
i know 5 months isnt generally considered to be a long time (and it took 10 lllooooonnnngggg cycles to get DD) but if AF were a person i would gladly shoot her to avoid another visit and im usually a lover not a fighter
i know how you feel i really do
xx ei xx

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 22:45

i had expected to fall pregnant instantly. my mum just needed to look at my dad and she was pregnant lol. why didnt i inherit the fertile gene

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/03/2008 22:56

i assumed my mum was super fertile until i asked her about it the other day (she had 4 kids in 4 years) and i found out that she had had 2 MCs (i knew this already) after trying for over a year for the first one and then started temping in order to get preg with my older sister. it obviously worked but i never knew she had had problems to start off with. i assumed i would be super fertile because most other women in my family have proved to be very fertile and i didnt understand why i wasnt having any luck i started temping this cycle as my first 'intervention' strategy and i have realised that i assumed i Oved on around CD16 and this cycle i actually Oved according to my temps on CD13 so unless there is a huge difference between my cycles (which there isnt) then i have been missing the boat every cycle so far i am due to test next week so we'll see whether i actually caught the egg or what i hope you get your BFP soon i really do
xx ei xx

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 23:04

i was speaking to my mum today and she said that it was always on first month of trying tht she got pregnant

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/03/2008 23:17

ahh its horrible when you hear something like that my friend can just decide she wants a baby and poof shes preg some people are just luckier in that area unfortunately (p.s. i wasnt suggesting that you had assumed about your mum i was saying I had iyswim)
my auntie has always been really fertile and has had 3 children(one given up for adoption) and 6 abortions she used them as birth control for a while when she had forgotten her pill from what she told me
xx ei xx

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profsturg · 27/03/2008 23:20

i was told when i was 18 i wouldnt be able to have a baby but they were wrong and i have a fantastic wee girl. i just want a brother or sister for her. i had PCOS but they said that had gone????

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chubbymummy · 27/03/2008 23:23

Ooooohhhh, please let me join in!!!! Only on my second cycle of ttc but I didn't get pregnant last month when I was doing everything right so I'm bound to be infertile! The fact I have a ds is irrelevant, something must have happened to me since he was born and now I am broken. Perhaps they accidently cut something when I had my c-section! Maybe I'm too old (31) and my body has slowed down too much, my tubes have gone as saggy as my boobs and the sperm can't find it's way! Aaaaaagggghhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 28/03/2008 11:25

chubbymummy i am on cycle 5 TTC#2 i wouldnt stress out over the Csection as they dont go near the tubes in the op as far as i know and by law they would have to tell you if they had what methods are you using?? (OPK, temping) i only ask as it seems that for the past couple of cycles i thought i was Oving around CD16-18 and i started temping this cycle and i Oved on cd13 so i have been missing the egg every cycle if i ov around the same time each month. i am a bit slack on the Bding at other times of the month so i usually time my Bds around the crucial time (so i thought) but i was obviously mistaken and i Bd the evening before Ov this cycle so hopefully i have caught the egg
xx ei xx

theowlwhowasafraidofthedark · 28/03/2008 11:28

It's so tough, I rtied to get pregnant for 13 months before bfp and it just felt like everyone was finding it so easy.
Good luck - sometimes it can take a while.

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profsturg · 28/03/2008 13:01

how do u temp. im using an opk at the moment and i can feel the pain when i ovulte so im pretty sure im bd at the right time but i would feel better if i could test in another way just to be sure

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 28/03/2008 13:23

Your temp only rises once you have ovulated, so you can only really use it as an indication that you have ovulated, as the ship has already sailed once you notice the temp shift - iyswim.

Do you notice a change in your cervical mucus? For me this is the best indicator of ovulation (along with ov pain) as the change in the amount of mucus I produce is very noticable.

I have tried opk sticks to not get pg and to get pg, and both times they did not work for me. I can highly recommend a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It looks like a massive read, but it really isn't and you'll learn so much more about your body and your cycles. The charting advice it gives is great, you can be as detailed (or not!) in your charting as you want to be.

I wish all of you so much good luck in ttc xx

EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 28/03/2008 13:34

i bought a basal body temprearture thermometer from ebay to chart my temps and i use fertility friend to record them it is worth a try of temping alongside OPKs as it will give you the exact day of ovulation so you can pinpoint your BDing efforts i am on my first cycle of temping and i already feel as if it has helped me understand my cycle more
xx ei xx

chubbymummy · 29/03/2008 14:52

i've used ovulation calculators on the net but my cycles can vary in length so i've been bd'ing every other day during the time i could be fertile. I'm also checking for changes in mucus as that really helped when ttc my ds. I haven't tried temping but after hearing everyones suggestions I will start to do that. At the moment i've got a lot of pain about where my right ovary is, I had a cyst on my left one in early pregnancy last time and this feels very much the same, realistically it can't be that because even if we've been sucessfull this month i'd only be about a week pregnant but fingers crossed anyway!

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