Sex Every 4 Days TTC

[SnKcampbell]

Hi Ladies

Was just wondering has anyone else DTD every 4 days and gone on to find out they're pregnant?

My partner struggles a bit to always want sex but he seems to be ok doing it every 4 days, He has had his sperm test done and all ok, i have also had my tests all done and all ok for me to bloods and scans.

We don't really want to use opks and BTT just yet as could be a bit too stressful as just starting out and i don't have the best of sleeps at night

My cycles can range from 26 to 32 days so it
seems I can ovulate on cycle days 12 to 18 going of my previous cycles
use the Flo app to keep track of my periods

So our plan was to DTD every 4 days from the date of the period ending and then stop 5 days before I was due my period to try to cover all bases

The apps always seem to suggest everyone has a 14 day luteal phase which is not the case, mine was 9 days long, but I wouldn’t know that without using opks and tracking bbt. I understand you want a relaxed approach at first but it seems like it is possibly going to put too much pressure on your husband dtd every 3 days if he has a low sex drive and would definitely be better to do it just the once the day you get a peak opk.

Thanks, so far he is ok doing every 3 days and says it's normally around the 3rd day when he feels like he needs to go again.

Looking back on my apps it has had when I have likely ovulated for my cycles and these have ranged from day 12 in cycle to day 18 of cycle

This month so far we have dtd on day 6, day 9, then still got day 12, day 15th, day 18 and day 21 and day 24 left to do to cover us if we stick to every 3 days so hopefully this covers the possibility of some ovulation dates

Then my period has come either 26 to 32 days apart

Day 6 to 24 is just far too wide to fall pregnant though you could just shorten it then have sex for fun outside of this and be spontaneous!

Thanks we worked it out would be 7 times in a month if we did every 3 days 24th day isn't meant to be a fertile day or ovulation this one was more of a fun and cover bases just incase

@SnKcampbell If DTD every 3-4 days works for you and it is what is going to make your partner feel the most comfortable, then I think that is fine. You need to make your peace that with less accuracy it may be hit and miss, but hopefully over time you get lucky.

However if you are looking for guarantees... then you need to either DTD more often, or use some more advance tracking.

I am only suggesting this because you say you want to keep it relaxed (which in an ideal world we all do) but then you are quoting what your apps say. So if in your heart of hearts you are more of a tracker, then I would just lean into that impulse and track!

I am a tracker, I have absolutely no chill. Just going to lean into who I am!😁

Thank you

Yes we have said we would try this approach for first 3 months then if nothing happens then look at changing things.
When we saw fertility specialist last year I remember they did say every 2 to 3 days was good.

I'm ok tracking and logging info on my periods to my app, I'm just not sure I'll any good at doing wee on stick multiple times a day and taking my btt.

Fingers crossed for you as well that you get a bfp this month