TTC baby #2

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Heya, it is good to be back. I joined mums net in 2020 and fell pregnant after 1 year of trying in 2021. I am now back again trying for baby number 2 (slightly earlier than anticipated as it took so long last time) and looking for a new group of lovely people who are sharing a similar journey :) x

Hi, I am usually a silent reader on mumsnet but @Bubblesandtroubles your last post really resonated with me. I am not sure I am cut out for TTC. My DD has just turned two, conceived on cycle 4 last time and I drove myself mad and still looking back think it was the most stressful 4 months of my life! And that’s with some complications in late pregnancy and birth.

i am now on to cycle 3 of TTC #2 (AF arrived yesterday) and I have let it consume me once again and have those feelings that I am doing my daughter a disservice by being upset when I already have her and maybe I should quit and be one and done

Hey everyone! TTC #2, it's cycle #2 and I'm 11DPO. I can also relate to you @Bubblesandtroubles @Clarajade !@Clarajade

I remember being so obsessed with TTC with my son (now 2) and truthfully I'm quite happy with just him (he's definitely more than enough), but want him to have a sibling - especially when we're old etc. I think right now I'm still pretty chill, so it's not become too all consuming, but that might change 6 months+ down the line! Sending much love x

@LeopardLover i remember you from a thread back in 2020, I have changed my username! It was one called The Pact or something? I know I am being irrational, my cycle has gotten a little shorter since last time which I hadn’t thought much of until starting TTC (except it’s annoying that I have more periods) but now I am stressing that it is a sign of my aging ovaries 🤣🤣

@Clarajade Omgosh, no way! What was your name? Yes, the pact was such a huge help to me back then 😁❤️ I even checked on everyone in that thread not long enough but couldn't see anyone active 🤣

Omgosh, I also read this the other day hahhaha! My cycle is a tiny bit shorter and I had a mini panic but I'm sure it's fine 😅x

@LeopardLover it was Ann89 but I was paranoid someone I know would know it was me 🤣

I didn’t write on there too much as I remember thinking I needed a break and I actually blocked mumsnet on my phone so I couldn’t read threads on there all day when WFH in lockdown and going mad haha. I told myself it would be different this time, but it isn’t ha.

how are you feeling about this month?

I convinced myself I was pregnant this month so was feeling pretty down yesterday. I know it’s only early days but it’s just so hard to not obsess!

my cycles have gone from 27-29 to anywhere 24-27 now. Xx

@Clarajade Ooooh CUTE. I don't blame you, I felt super obsessed last time. I'm sure I'll feel just as obsessed again soon 😂 I think lockdown made everything worse!

Not hopeful at all this month, so I won't be disappointed when AF arrives. I loved having an April baby so I think I'm already putting pressure on conceiving next month 👀 I'm sorry you were feeling down, it's really tough when you convince yourself you're pregnant. I remember doing that last time! 💔

I went from 29-31 to 27-29. But normally 27! I feel like I'm blaming pregnancy not age 😅 x

@Clarajade it's so difficult isn't it! I'm sorry people feel the same but nice to know they're normal feelings to have!
I've not put a deadline on it yet but I have said to my husband I don't want to be trying indefinitely and he agrees. Just crossing everything that this next month will be the one 🤞🤞🤞
That's interesting (and a little worrying!) about the shorter cycles as mine have definitely got shorter - 3 have been 24days since February when I look back. I'm 37 now so not getting any younger 😬 xx

@Bubblesandtroubles yes it is nice that it isn’t only just me that feels that way, I really hope it happens for you this month, sounds like we are going to be similar with dates this month.

I have said to my husband I’ll try to give it six months and re evaluate after that but after this cycle I think I just need to focus on getting through the next one. It’s a busy month socially so hopefully that will help, although this month has been too and it didn’t haha. I think I need to be more mindful of the doom and gloom thoughts with no evidence to back them up!

oh please don’t let me worry you about the shorter cycles, it’s probably nothing just something for me to stress about! I have had 3 24 days this year too. I turned 34 in May xx

Just got my period today (as expected Cus didn't feel pregnant what so ever). So this will be going on to cycle 3 of trying for a sibling. My cycle was 34 days this month which is promising considering I hardly used to have periods at all.

How do you all track ovulation ? I haven't actually been tracking but just going on symptoms etc. think I might start tracking now

How's everyone doing? Cycle 2 for me, I think I'm about 4dpo, having got married on 1st July i decided not to track for a month and it's felt soo much more chilled (although being consumed by wedding helped!). Had my usual EWCM which is hard to miss so got a rough idea of when O was. Although DS had the worst night last night, anyone else feel like maybe 2 is a bad idea after nights like that?! Sending baby dust x

I've been using clear blue digi ovulation tests and DTD at peak (solid smiley) and also started tracking BBT this month