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Bad luck with TTC timing this month - feeling really down

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Lola19 · 04/03/2023 13:53

Hi ladies,

Not a question just looking to vent to people who understand as I feel like I don’t want to bore my friends with all my ttc chat all the time. Basically husband and I have a good marriage but due to his busy/stressful job and him being an anxious person it is so difficult for us to have sex more than once a week when trying to conceive!
We have been trying for our second baby since December 22 so for 3 months! First baby took us 8 months to conceive due to us not having enough sex during my fertile week.
Anyway this week we have managed three times and I was super chuffed and feeling really positive that this might be our month! I’m quite experience and on top of my ovulation tracking. I use the clear blue fertility monitor, opks and BBT. However this my ovulation seems to be really late. I usually ovulate day 14,15 or 16 but I’m now on day 19 and I haven’t yet. I’ve had “high” days for 8 days now on my fertility monitor. So two of the days we had sex now aren’t valid as sperm only lives for 5 days! I’m just frustrated that I finally got hubby on board and I’ve still not ovulated! Hubby is away now so we can’t try anymore! If I’d ovulated on one of my normal days I’d have three days of sperm up there waiting! Thanks if you took the time to read I just wanted to vent!

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Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 04/03/2023 14:38

I totally get why you are feeling down. How long is he away for?

I'm on my first month of the monitor. Do you normally have a lot of high days? I had my 2nd today and I'm CD9 normally ovulate around day 15/16 ish.

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Lola19 · 05/03/2023 12:20

Thanks for your reply!

My high days vary to be honest but I never ovulate on the same cycle day. The monitor says I’m finally ovulating today which is cycle day 19 so that’s quite unusual for me I’ve had I had 8 days of “High”. Last month I had five days of “High” and peaked on cycle day 14! We had sex on cycle days 16,13 and 11. So I know 11 is definitely invalid now and cd13 is most likely invalid too! Typical! Hubbys away for another week! I have load of EWCM today too! So disappointing! Hopefully you have better luck! I fell pregnant with my first baby on the second month of using the monitor! Xx

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Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 05/03/2023 13:36

Fingers crossed day 16 was your lucky day it's better for them to already be up there I think so you never know. Thanks for letting me know about the high days and how long it took with the monitor. Keeping my fingers crossed this month x

Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 05/03/2023 13:36

Fingers crossed day 16 was your lucky day it's better for them to already be up there I think so you never know. Thanks for letting me know about the high days and how long it took with the monitor. Keeping my fingers crossed this month x

Enn1234 · 05/03/2023 14:44

Lola19 · 04/03/2023 13:53

Hi ladies,

Not a question just looking to vent to people who understand as I feel like I don’t want to bore my friends with all my ttc chat all the time. Basically husband and I have a good marriage but due to his busy/stressful job and him being an anxious person it is so difficult for us to have sex more than once a week when trying to conceive!
We have been trying for our second baby since December 22 so for 3 months! First baby took us 8 months to conceive due to us not having enough sex during my fertile week.
Anyway this week we have managed three times and I was super chuffed and feeling really positive that this might be our month! I’m quite experience and on top of my ovulation tracking. I use the clear blue fertility monitor, opks and BBT. However this my ovulation seems to be really late. I usually ovulate day 14,15 or 16 but I’m now on day 19 and I haven’t yet. I’ve had “high” days for 8 days now on my fertility monitor. So two of the days we had sex now aren’t valid as sperm only lives for 5 days! I’m just frustrated that I finally got hubby on board and I’ve still not ovulated! Hubby is away now so we can’t try anymore! If I’d ovulated on one of my normal days I’d have three days of sperm up there waiting! Thanks if you took the time to read I just wanted to vent!

Hi OP! I know how you feel! 😞

Ive been ttc since Ocotber 22 and trying to get my husband on board each month is a task in itself!
Then I see negative pregnancy tests and become defeated

I hope you get a bfp soon!

Original poster
Lola19 · 05/03/2023 15:35

I know exactly how you feel! It’s a chore for me every month to convince him! It’s so frustrating when you gear yourself up for it, feeling all positive and then they turn you down and it’s so disappointing when you know it’s one of your precious fertile days!

Sending baby dust to you ✨

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Enn1234 · 05/03/2023 17:10

Lola19 · 05/03/2023 15:35

I know exactly how you feel! It’s a chore for me every month to convince him! It’s so frustrating when you gear yourself up for it, feeling all positive and then they turn you down and it’s so disappointing when you know it’s one of your precious fertile days!

Sending baby dust to you ✨

Exactly!
If only we could just pregnant so we could stop trying!
Its heartbreaking to know youve missed the fertile days and then youve got to try next month and this vicious cycle just repeats itself again and again.

sigh

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