Is pregnancy possible or am I just going crazy??

[Gillseybear]

Hey all,

I hope you guys can help with this as I am super confused. I have ordered some Frer tests and am waiting for them to arrive in the mail. Sorry this might be a long post.

I left my abusive ex partner back in November as he was horrible and have been trying to keep things civil because he owes me money.

On the 28th December 22, I went over to my Ex's mums to celebrate Christmas with them. The ex was saying there at the time but was supposed to be away (his step mom caught Covid and so he could not go and see his dad). So he ended up being in the house while I was there. We went upstairs to chat and ended up having sex. I did want to but he gets abusive if I say no and so just went along with it. I know I should of not put myself in that situation but he wanted to talk and so I believed him.

Back to my conundrum. We had sex and did not use any protection. My period arrived on New Year's Eve and so I thought nothing of it after that. Due to having endometriosis my body can be a little all over the place but normally I am pretty regular my previous 4 cycles have been 24-27 days since I had a MMC in September.
I was expecting to come on last weekend but so far no sign of AF and Flo is saying I am 6 days late. Hence my confusion with everything as no sign of it yet.
Over the last week I have started to notice a few pregnancy symptoms and so it's got me thinking that there's a chance I could be. I have been feeling super nauseous and randomly threw up a couple of times last week. I am tierd all the time and cramping with sever lower back pain. They are not anything like AF cramps though.

I guess what I am trying to say is that is there any chance I could be pregnant seeing as I had an AF after we DTD. I am so confused and have no idea what's going on right now!!

I also want to add that I had spotting this month around the time that I ovulate. It was pink/ red/ brown. I do not get it normally. I do not track ovulation and so just going based of off flo

Can you just go to a shop tomorrow and buy a test op, rather than putting yourself through this prolonged stress?

It's possible, people do still get periods occasionally but it's now likely just late. If you are, you have options that allow you to put this guy behind you.

I'm assuming you meant you didn't want to as you then say it's easier to do it than say no, in which case I'm really sorry that happened to you, and clearly now than once.

Consensual sex is not sex you feel pushed into.

@SleepingStandingUp thank you so much for your reply. It's not been a very fun few days and my head has been all over the place.

I think the confusion is coming from the fact that I DTD before my last period and so felt safe because it's so far before ovulation that there is no chance I could actually get pregnant. I am hoping it's just my body being wierd and not anything else. Although if I am pregnant it would not be the worst thing and I would cope somehow.

Yeah basically he used to get mad if I refused sex and so it was just easier to agree when he started touching me. I did not want to cause a scene at his mums house.

I do not get paid until Monday and spent the last of my money on these tests. They were supposed to be next day delivery but have not arrived yet. I ordered them on Tuesday

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would sat it was unlikely, sperm can survive up to 5 days but most are around 3 days, even if an egg was fertilised, as you had your period the lining wouldn’t be thick enough for implantation. Of course there are always exceptions but with those dates it’s very unlikely.

Things like stress can disrupt your cycle and it sounds like you’ve been under quite a bit of stress lately.

Hope they arrive today @Gillseybear and it's negative. You say it wouldn't be the worst thing but you're talking about being linked to the guy who forces you to have sex with him for at least 18 years

@Twoinapod - thank you so much for your response it's so confusing. I am hoping things figure themselves out soon. I hate my body when it does stuff like this.

@SleepingStandingUp I know I had not thought about it like that. Now I feel even more conflicted. They have not arrived yet but our delivery's can be al over the place.

One step at a time.

@SleepingStandingUp yep you are right there. Thankfully the tests arrived today and so I am going to take one in the morning and see.

How did you get on @Gillseybear ?

@SleepingStandingUp sorry I was supposed to reply on here. I have spent all weekend in bed throwing up and so not had chance to do the test yet. I am going to do it in the morning and go from there!

@SleepingStandingUp just done a test with FMU and completely white and negative. I have no idea what to think or do next??

Still not sign of AF but negative test aswell!

If your last period was NYE then you're about 9 days late??

You'd be 6ish weeks pregnant so should def show up on a pregnancy test.

Could you try your GP? Between the endo and the MMC in September it could just be your body being wonky, and with the stress of what happened with the ex etc. but you're also feeling unwell etc so I'd call and ask them to check you over.

@SleepingStandingUp thank you so much. I got in contact with my doctors today and have a call with them on Friday and so I shall speak to them then!

Good luck x

Thank you so much for your advice @SleepingStandingUp.
Turns out my body decided to play tricks on me AF finally arrived over night at 11 days late. At least it's finally here. Hopefully back to normality next month!!

Glad it's sorted op.

Please please stay away from this abuse man. No one deserves to be made to have sex against their will.