I need help whether I am am being paranoid

[Blackandwhite97]

Hi everyone,
I was wondering if I could have some advice.
please do not judge me, we all make mistakes but I need opinions :

on March 10-11th 2018, I had a one night stand with someone, my first and last. However, he used protection.

i had a period on the 20th March- 24th March 2018. I then got back with my ex partner of 3 years and continued to sleep with him unprotected as I always have done from April 3rd onwards.

i then found out I was pregnant and we had our child. However he is now saying that he doesn’t know if he is the dad? As how does he know that the person didn’t take it off mid way as I was very drunk?

However, now I’m overthinking, I’m very worried. The due date for baby was the 24th Decememeber. I’ve been doing contraception calculations, I even spoke to mid wife and she said it falls start of first week of April.

on the 06.08.2018- I was 20 weeks pregnant

but now because he’s questioned it but now won’t do a dna, saying I need to pay? I’m scared that what happens if he isn’t. And I don’t even speak to the person who I had a one night stand with and I wondered whether my ex is gaslighting me as he’s a narcissist as we had a very up and down relationship.

im just scared. Also a DNA test had been brought up but he’s saying I should pay? When why should I? When I know in my bones he’s his dad but now he’s put doubt in my head and if I do get the test what if he doesnt let me do it ? But is there a possibility? Or scientifically is it impossible

Probable conception dates: Mar 31, 2018 - Apr 4, 2018, probable dates of sexual intercourse that led to the pregnancy: Mar 28, 2018 - Apr 4, 2018

so very likely it's your ex partner's, but he's being an emotionally abusive dick. If this is about CMS, they can ask for a paternity test to ensure he pays

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl yeah he is, he’s very narcissist. He’s blocked me for over a week since stating it and won’t answer my calls. He has emotionally damaged me and Is there no chance that it could fall on the 11th March? As I’m just second guessing myself. I haven’t spoken cms as he’s on UC. So he wouldn’t be able to pay for the dna so I’m unsure how it works ? I’m just lost with it all.

I'm sorry, I can't help with the CMS side. Is he on the birth cert? If yes, he legally has responsibility to provide for his child I think.

CMS can help with a paternity test if it’s about that. If you think you won’t get CMS anyway and If he is just denying his child but not doing a dna to fix the situation so he can have a relationship with his own DC that’s not a man you need around dc anyway

If you’re still with him you need to get away.
You’ve said he’s a narc already. He gaslights and blocks you. if another man had taken the condom off secretly that would be rape, it’s not something for a loving DP do to be angry at you about
if he is now denying dc and being horrible please protect yourself and DC and get away from this man

When was your child actually born and what was their birth weight?

Thank you everyone. @Thatskindafun I agree with your message. I didn’t even realise that until I googled. I have Been made to feel like I’m some sl** and I need to prove myself.

When actually the only people who are victims are myself and my son. I love my boy so much and I can honestly say he’s my rock, world and the reason I am who I am and having outsiders opinion on this, I feel empowered on my thought process now.

thank you all x