TTC but only one chance a month

[RunningOnHope]

My partner and I are currently trying for DC2 but I'm feeling a bit down about the likelihood of it working any time soon. We use a donor, and for DC1 we could have two attempts in the fertile window each month. It took a few months but worked reasonably straightforwardly. This time round, circumstances have changed and we can only try once a month. My ovulation is reasonably predictable, but we can't always time it to the best day of the month either. So it feels like a long shot! Especially when advice is all "keep having sex every other day all month" or "have sex every day during your most fertile week" and we can't get anywhere near that.

Wondered if anyone else had similar limitations? Either using a donor or other life circumstances make it hard to DTD regularly? Might be able to encourage each other!

Hi op

Not got any direct experience with what your saying. But people get pregnant from one night stands and sex only once in their fertile week so once can be “all it needs” as such.

I presume if your using donor sperm you’re having artificial insemination? Is that correct?

We’ve had friends who had to go this route. And they now have two children. Both times got pregnant within 3 cycles and only had one attempt each cycle. Is that helpful?

Also, if it is artificial insemination believe they place the sample of sperm inside your cervix?
In which case gives you higher odds than normal ppl ttc. As often not all the speed which enters the vagina after ejaculation even makes it to the cervix. Whereas donor sperm placed inside the cervix is 100% of that sperm given a head start.

If it isn’t AI sorry if I’ve waffles on 🙈

Thanks so much for replying @Indianna2006, that is helpful! Yes, donor sperm but we're doing home insemination so don't get the advantage of straight into cervix, but you're very right about one night stands and so on. Always amazes me how TTC can be such a big deal and a massive 'project' for those who desperately want it, yet such an accidental or unplanned thing for so many who don't necessarily try! Fingers crossed it'll be our 'one time' soon. Thanks again