TTC, Help! Feel like I’m trying everything!

[Mynameisunavailable]

Hello everyone,

I’m a newbie! Mid-30s and TTC as got married later than intended. So AF came yesterday and I feel so deflated! It’s our third cycle (I know it can take longer) but I’m just really frustrated as it feels like we are trying everything:

• DTD on the day of ovulation and two days following that and trying to every other day leading up to ovulation (pink ovulation tests)
• DTD sorry TMI orgasm before he comes
• Basal temperature
• Superseed lube
• Multi - vitamins
• Legs in the air after DTD. I know it’s only a myth but anything is worth a try!

Is there anything I’m missing? Or should be doing differently? Just feeling really low and hormonal with AF . Any tips would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance

Putting this here in case it helps someone else:

Just found out after 13 months ttc, 5 chemicals and one mc that i have basically been poisoning myself with high dose folic acid: i have the Mthfr gene mutation (very common!). My body cannot process folic acid so it builds up and actually could be causing my ttc difficulties as well as a whole other set of health issues. Really frustrating because you try to follow all the nhs advice and it’s wrong! I need to take methylfolate not folic acid! This is the advice of my fertility clinic consultant.

I took methylfolate and now feel so much better (even allowing for placebo), gone is my fatigue, brain fog, migraine and body aches. Even if it doesn’t help ttc (too soon to tell) then I am so grateful to find this out. Might help someone else to know this...

[quote Mynameisunavailable]@PinkPlantCase I’ve been using the Clear Blue ovulation pink tests which only give the smiley faces. I’ve just ordered the digital advanced one as thought I’d give that a go too ! I’m trying anything and everything lol!

Do you suggest getting the kits that test LH levels too?

Would you suggest DTD every other day after I’ve finished my period? Until I’ve ovulated?

We both don’t smoke and hardly drink although tempted after AF came yesterday ![/quote]
I never used any of the clear blue ones, I used dip sticks that had an app that gave us the graph attached which it’s what I found helpful, when the LH peak is when you release an Egg. The purple zone is when you’re most fertile.

Re when to DTD I’d say it depends how early you ovulate, once my cycles evened out after being on the pill it was really normal for me to ovulate around day 10 which did surprise me! So if we didn’t DTD really close to my period we wouldn’t of had a chance!

I’d say it depends on your cycle really. If you ovulate later on theres no point being worn out and a bit annoyed with DTD by the time your fertile window comes round if you can be more focused about.

I remember that there used to be a warning on my contraceptive pill that said grapefruits and grapefruit juice could interfere with how the pill worked. I don’t know if there’s a hormonal aspect to it, maybe do some research on it before drinking too much!

@PinkPlantCase that’s really useful, thank you. I don’t tend to ovulate the same day each month. In April I ovulated on day 16 of my cycle and in May day 12! I know it’s not exactly the same each month. Will keep tracking it! This is more complicated than I anticipated 😀 haha!

EWCM is egg white cervical mucus. Although grapefruit juice helps to increase it I found it a lot easier to just have evening primrose oil pills daily as it does the same. Only take it up until ovulation though.

FP is follicular phase, LP is luteal phase.

I ultimately don't think it matters but if you wanna try it all then I'd say O after and not before - the before doesn't do anything in relation to TTC.

I agree with @AbstractHeart about sugar/carbs but most people find it too hard and thus ignore it. But it's meant to affect egg quality a lot!

Hey,

I’m in the same boat as you - every month it’s heartbreak.

One other thing I tried is Fertililly Cup - I’m not pregnant so can’t say it’s effective but it worked for some. Other thing I’ve been reading about is acupuncture for fertility which has had some good feedback. I’m 8dpo and if unsuccessful this time round it’s time for fertility tests .

Xxx

@Louise1051 I’ve also heard acupuncture has good results. Hang in there, we’ve got this 💪🏻!

Not sure if the suggestions above help you, but I’ll definitely be looking into the ovulation strips as they seem more accurate in tracking ovulation as I’ve been using the Clear Blue ovulation test.

Good luck xx

Thanks @Mynameisunavailable, if I try acupuncture and meet with an alternative fertility practitioner I will post on the site and let you know what I thought/how it went .

It’s way too much info BUT I took Proceive Max this cycle and there has been a LOT more CM. I’m attributing it to Proceive. Xxx

@Louise1051 sounds good 😊! Yes it will be lovely to hear how you’re getting on. Vice versa, if anything seems to be working, I’ll do the same. I hope it goes well xx