Are your OHs struggling with TTC?!

[Kipkay35]

Hi, we’re TTC our first, it’s been 6 months (1 miscarriage at 6 weeks first cycle). I thought my partner would love DTD frequently but I don’t think he’s enjoying it at all, I got that impression on our second cycle so until this month I didn’t talk about DTD at the right time, just when we felt like it as usual-this was fun and he seemed happy. I was happy too but always conscious it was not often ‘at the right time’.

.Because we haven’t conceived again yet, This month I used clear blue OPK and he knew I had a static smiley Saturday and Sunday but he couldn’t finish! (This Is very unusual for him). So I feel like we’ve totally missed the peak this month. I am really disappointed.

He is really excited about us conceiving. How are your Partners coping? Do you talk about your temp/OPKs/ fertile times!? Are you spontaneous or timed?

Sorry this is a brain dump. I’d love to know what you guys are doing?
Thank you and spreading baby dust to you all x

@Kipkay35

Hi, we’re TTC our first, it’s been 6 months (1 miscarriage at 6 weeks first cycle). I thought my partner would love DTD frequently but I don’t think he’s enjoying it at all, I got that impression on our second cycle so until this month I didn’t talk about DTD at the right time, just when we felt like it as usual-this was fun and he seemed happy. I was happy too but always conscious it was not often ‘at the right time’.

.Because we haven’t conceived again yet, This month I used clear blue OPK and he knew I had a static smiley Saturday and Sunday but he couldn’t finish! (This Is very unusual for him). So I feel like we’ve totally missed the peak this month. I am really disappointed.

He is really excited about us conceiving. How are your Partners coping? Do you talk about your temp/OPKs/ fertile times!? Are you spontaneous or timed?

Sorry this is a brain dump. I’d love to know what you guys are doing?
Thank you and spreading baby dust to you all x

@Kipkay35 hey, First month I told OH when peak was and it was too much pressure so he couldn't finish. We speak about most things.

Second month (this month) I didn't tell him about peak until fertile week was over, we just dtd everyday throughout fertile week and it went much better. Got a BFP today 10dpo

Good luck and baby dust x

Yup. Last month was a complete mess up. 2 out of the 3 he struggled to finish. It was hard work on my behalf. I'm always open about it. And i think it's only fair to share the burden.
I feel like I'm pestering him to have sex. This month I let him come up with a plan. And it's been a breeze. So maybe ask him what he'd like. Would he like to know or not? I don't tell him it's peak, but he knows, cos I never jump twice in a row! 😂 but we decided to do two in a row, then a day off, for the week of fertile week. That way I could sort of line it up as I needed to. Hopefully about to hit the TWW... 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 this is our month. Cos it's a real chore! 🙄🙈

Ok this is soooo helpful. Thank you so much. @Cakelaur it is a chore you are right! I think if there’s no bfp this month I will try a more chilled month next month, would love to hear any other stories anyone has.

@DizSquiz congrats on your positive! Xx