Feeling sad and desperate ? When did you get your bfp?

[JB14C]

Hi,

Feeling so sad and deflated this month, had a big cry and still not feeling much better. I’m 9dpo on a 34/35 day cycle ( cd29) and had the biggest fattest negative. I’ve had no symptoms, a little bit tired/ lacking motivation but I think that’s due to just feeling flat. But no real symptoms, I done everything right I think, bd on good days, used conceive plus as I have no cm and had loads of healthy fruit and veg, but nothing.

How many people got neg on 9dpo and then got a positive? Feeling soo desperate

Can’t help OP but just want to say that I feel exactly the same this morning

12DPO today and big fat negative so I guess I really am out this month.

We too are doing everything, vitamins, cutting out/ down caffeine and alcohol, tracking ovulation with OPK’s and BBT, DTD on all the correct days (we were exhausted from all the bloody sex this month) used pre-seed every time etc. Nothing, nada.

Onto cycle 5 and I know it’s not long but it’s really depressing.

FWIW, v few people get a BFP at 9DPO. Apparently 12DPO is actually the average so you’re definitely not out at all.

I was obsessively scrolling old threads yesterday of women who didn’t get their BFP until the day AF was due or a few days after their missed AF. I always wonder where these women are, because everyone on here seems to get their BFP at 10/11DPO

Don’t lose hope OP, there’s still a good chance for you this month!

@SweetShopSurprise hey! Thank you, I understand all your feelings so much.

As much as it is good that we have done all the right things, that makes it all the more painful when it’s BFN. it’s cruel.

Me and my boyf are also exhausted, poor guy had nothing left by the end of my fertile window. I think we started with the whole bd to early this month, but try and do it every other day!

Thank you, I have read that you can get positive after 9dpo but my gut is just telling me this isn’t my month.

I can’t take away the pain your feeling but I understand you. I hope you get your BFP so soon