Anyone else TTC and do it in an relaxed way?

[2021ComeAtMe]

I came off the pill between Christmas and NY ready to TTC DC2

I'm very excited! But trying to relax and just see how it goes - I'm not temping or using OPKs or peering at the calendar every day to see when I should be ovulating

DC2 is almost 3 so I've been back on the pill 2.5 years. Only took 6 weeks to fall pregnant last time but I'm aware my cycles could be irregular this time, and it may take longer.

Other threads I've joined seem to focussing around OPKs and early testing but I'm not doing that (no disrespect to anyone who is, it's just not for me!) I'm focussing on eating healthily, exercising regularly and chilling out.

Anyone else out there the same?!

Only me?

Hopeful bump!

I'm doing exactly the same, currently having a withdrawal bleed. I had a miscarriage in October and this time I'm staying relaxed, just using Flo to see when I'm ovulating. Fingers crossed for us both to stay calm and get our bfp.

@ploopypleepy I'm so glad I've got a friend on here thought I was the only one in the world not temping/using OPK's!

Will this be your first baby? Have you made any lifestyle changes?

@2021ComeAtMe me too!! I'm far too forgetful to do OPK's. It will be my first baby yes, I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks in October and decided we would start trying again in the new year! Will this be your first?? A few changes... cut down on alcohol and started exercising more and I'm back on folic acid. Have you?

@2021ComeAtMe sorry just seen this will be your third!!

@ploopypleep My apologies, I didn't read your first reply properly - I'm so sorry about your miscarriage, I can only imagine how hard it is

This will be my 2nd pregnancy - I have an older stepchild who spends lots of time with us so in my heart I have 2 children already so this will be my 3rd child, but my 2nd baby!

Pretty much the same here! Have upped my exercise, and trying to cut back on the rubbish food. Enjoyed a few drinks over Christmas and NY but knocked that on the head now and also taking folic acid and vitamin D

Do you have a rough idea when you'll be ovulating? I think I'll be around the 18th but with this being my first month off the pill I'm aware that anything could happen!

Ahh lovely, my partner has kids too so I know the feeling!!

I have no idea when I will ovulate .... if I take this withdrawal bleed as a real period then I would assume I ovulate on around the 24/25th. But yeah like you said it could be any time! Will be interesting to see how things pan out with you as we are on similar dates. Will you be doing pregnancy tests at the end of the two week wait ??

Ahh it's lovely having a blended family in my opinion - I do have it easier than most though! I get on very well with my DSC's Mum how old are your SC? Are they hoping for another sibling?

Well I'm happy to stick around on here and compare if you'd like to! I'm expecting my next period on the 30th(ish) if I go straight back to how long my cycle was when I was last off it a few years ago. I think I'll probably wait until I'm at least a few days passed then, so some time in the first week of Feb (I say this now, may feel differently then haha)

I tested a whole week after my period was due when TTC my youngest! Genuinely didn't think I was pregnant then, but it was so nice to see two very dark lines on my test. I'd hate to test too early and get my hopes up so if I can wait, I'll test a bit late I think will you test at the end?

Yeah it is, takes a while for things to settle into place but it's great now. They're boys, 5 and 15! Yeah they are thank goodness How old is your sc? Is your DC desperate for another sibling?

That will be great to see how your getting on! I'm the same ... definitely test after a missed period otherwise I feel I'd jinxed it! Much better to have two dark lines than a squinter hopefully in a couple of months we will be comparing lines.

Hey,
Yes we are, so came off the pill 14th December after 10 years. Had withdrawal bleed soon after, now awaiting AF, I've felt achy for weeks.. but nothing yet.. heard it can take a few months?
Ideally would like to be totally open to conceiving from May as that's when I'd be eligible for some mat pay and I figured would be good to lose some pounds/ get on the folic acid and vit D and let cycles bottom out. But the approach is to 'see what happens'.. deep down I'll be monitoring and checking I am sure..
Exciting to just be able to join a chat and get involved at this stage xxx

I don't understand all this OPKs and testing. All of the tablets and ointments etc. I had no idea TTC was so complicated!
I've been trying for almost 5 years but have been in hospital with a kidney stone and had 3 miscarriages in that time. The most recent miscarriage was at 20 weeks on Xmas Eve so I've been told to stop TTC until I get the post mortem results in 12 weeks.
The plan is to get a physically fit and mentally ready as possible without stressing out. My plans are accupuncture, running, yoga and trying to cut down on alcohol. What changes if any have you all made?

@lillg sorry to hear about your loss x
Just started to try and focus on getting into exercise regime, eating veg and fruits consistently, main thing has been to try and reduce stress / trying to choose not to be and do as much for myself as possible - self care. I feel the shift of basically just ensuring doing things for myself. I'd never heard of OPKs until today!! I'll be trying to figure out when I'm in fertile window once cycle gets back to normal but I know it won't work with me and my partner unless we take it relaxed - we won't respond well to 'on demand!'

@Dalmxo thank you. I'm not trying to reduce the stress at the moment. I work in finance and it's year end, so work stress is through the roof until March. I will however make sure I take it easy after that. And I'm hoping running and yoga will help me keep my stress levels under control and stop me turning to the wine to chill out in the evening.
When I've fallen pregnant before it's always when I've lost s bit of weight, and I could certainly do with loosing some again so trying to eat sensibility, although still have Xmas chocolate left tempting me.
I agree the "on demand" plan won't work for me either. My DH is very much of the opinion if it's meant to be it will happen.

@ploopypleepy wow, great ages! Cant comment on your older DSS but my DC was 5 when their sibling came along and they were thrilled! Yes I do hope so - please keep me updated with how you're getting on  I'll check in here daily.

@zedxox hey! It can indeed take a few months for your cycles to become regular - keep a little eye on your dates or for changes in your body though, some people get pregnant straight away

@lillg so very sorry for the loss of your baby  I'm also cutting right down on the alcohol (not a big drinker) and doing more exercise. I have an Apple Watch so trying to do at least 30 mins a day to close my rings! I could do with losing a little weight, 10lbs off would be good. So I'm trying to focus on healthy eating rather than OPK's!

@Dalmxo yes we're the same here too! Relaxed is the best way for us, DH wouldn't be impressed if our sex life revolved around the calendar

I didn't use Ovulation tests after reading NICE Guidelines and the fact that the GP advised not to as they stated that they create unnecessary stress, I also have no idea when I ovulate as my cycles vary from 28 to 45 days and I have PCOS so needed the TTC process to be as stress free as possible. Also ovulation tests don't work in PCOS. I just did it every other day and conceived within 3 months. Also sperm can survive for 7 days!!!!

@LyraShaeLilly hi 👋🏻 I see so many people on here using them I figured it was the norm, didn't realise they weren't always recommended to use. I can't say I never would, maybe 6 months or so if I wasn't pregnant but I'm happy just to take each day as it comes at the minute

Me too! I have temped on and off but really just to check I'm ovulating (and because I'm fascinated by it ) but no OPKs, no checking CM, no pre-seed or wellwoman or anything like that. I'm taking folic acid and I know what day I ovulate so we DTD more around then.

I've only tested pre-AF twice in 6 months and both times was then annoyed at myself at the waste of money so no longer doing that either!

@DuzzyFuck well you're very welcome to join us in not temping, not OPKing, not CM checking, just pretty much waiting for our next period to arrive (or hopefully not!)

I DTD again last night, will try and do it 3-4 over the next week and I hoping that'll mean I'll have some sperm waiting when/if I do ovulate. I think it should be around the 18th for me! Do you think that would cover it? Every other day for the next week?

@2021ComeAtMe yeah, I think 3 times over the week should do it! We're doing around the same .. just to make sure we catch ovulation (if it happens). My withdrawal bleed has stopped, really light and only lasted 2/3 days.

@ploopypleepy I hope so! I had all good intentions when my last period finished, was going to have loads of sex, every other day right through my cycle so catch ovulation at any time... but I'm tired 😂 I'm furloughed so off work but between homeschooling eldest/entertaining toddler/housework, I'm collapsing in bed every night haha!

If sperm lasts 7 days 1 week before ovulation and 1 week after will give you the best chance.

@2021ComeAtMe hahaha I know that feeling, I'm a key worker and still doing 12 hour shifts... definitely kills the sex drive every two days might have to do is hahah

@LyraShaeLilly true! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed I get a good little swimmer 🤞🏻

@ploopypleepy it's hard isn't it! I do find that the more sex we have, the more I want just need to summon up the energy.

Just checking in, if anyone's still about

I'm feeling pretty good this weekend, hope you're all ok too? Have DTD plenty, will do it a couple more times over the next few days and then I think I'll have covered my fertile window (if it is when it 'should' be.) Then onto the TWW where I just need to keep myself occupied

@2021ComeAtMe I'm here! Glad to hear you've had the energy we've done the same but had a random bit of bleeding today, I have read that the is can happen during the first month of coming off the pill so not worrying. TWW is exciting!!! Hope it's your month !