Finally got my BFP, here’s what I did differently

[Lola19]

Hi ladies, apologies I have already posted this exact comment on reply to someone else’s post but it’s too long to type out again. I thought this might be helpful for anyone who is struggling!

This would have been my 9th month of TTC and I was thinking to myself “if I don’t get a BFP this time I am going to start worrying there’s something wrong” but luckily I got my BFP this time. I did a few things differently this time and it’s obviously worked. So first of all I don’t think we were doing it enough in the days running up to ovulation, my husband has a physically and mentally tiring job so often it was difficult to get him to have sex during my window. I usually aimed for the day of ovulation and we did it once maybe twice during the window. We had a big heart to heart (there were tears on my part!) and he agreed to make more of an effort.

So my friend had recommended the clearblue fertility monitor to me. You can buy the latest expensive model if you can afford it or you can do what my friend recommended and buy the older model second hand off eBay (side note; I thought that would be gross but your pee doesn’t actually touch the monitor) it works just as well as the newer version! So all you do is you enter your first day of your period and it will ask you around day 7 of your cycle for your pee sticks. So pee on the stick, pop the lid on and click it in. It will give you several high days and two peak days. The high days are when it detects estrogen (which is what causes EWCM) so to my surprise it gave me 7 HIGH days and then my 2 PEAK days. I had been missing all these fertile days because I couldn’t see any EWCM but it was obviously up there! So we BD

5 days before
4 days before
2 days before
Day of ovulation

That’s the most we have ever done it during my window and I also used preseed every time which was new (didn’t tell hubby as thought it would kill the mood, I just went to the bathroom before and popped it up there lol)

So on my second time of using the monitor I got my BFP. My friend got hers the 2nd time and so did HER friend who recommended it to her!
I think I was really discounting the days before ovulation and focusing too much on my peak days. Also, if you don’t already BBT then you should. It will tell you exactly which day you ovulate AND I also knew I was preg because your temp always drops the day before your period and mine stayed high. I used the app Fertility Friend for tracking BBT.

I would honestly say you can’t go wrong with the monitor, it took the stress out of guessing when I was going to ovulate for me and allowed us to hit my most fertile days in the run up! I got mine on eBay for cheap so it’s worth a try

I'm on my second month of using the CB! Fingers crosses for the perfect Christmas present ❤️

Oh great! Crossing everything for you and sending you baby dust! Update this post if you do get your BFP ✨

Congratulations op and thanks for the tips!

No problem 🙂 Hope it helps someone!!

Hi OP, congratulations on your pregnancy!!

I just started using the CB tests this week and have had the flashing smiley yesterday and today. Did you continue testing once a day or more often once you got the flashing smiley? The instructions say you can test more often once you get a flashing one but I wasn't sure whether to. I don't want to miss the peak but also don't want to waste the sticks!

I'm very new to this so don't really have a clue what I'm doing haha

Ah so I think you are using the clearblue advanced ovulation tests? I used the actual monitor which is slightly different but I guess the same idea where you gets your high days and peaks! The monitor only lets you put in one stick a day! I would say try your best to have as much sex as you can on your flashing smiley days as I think one of my major mistakes was hanging off for my actual ovulation day and I think the key is getting enough sperm up there waiting for the egg rather than trying to time it on ovulation and not having enough sperm to catch it!
The sticks are expensive, I would probably do no more than 2 a day, 1 morning and 1 night?

Oh and thank you very much 🥰❤️

@Lola19 ohhh I didn't realise they were different! We DTD last night, I think I'll try another test this evening and try and DTD tonight too. Flo reckons ovulation will be tomorrow but we won't be able to DTD tomorrow due to DH's work 👎🏻

Thank you for your help!

Eeeeep I love these threads, thanks for sharing OP! I'm going to do the next best thing and start with the advanced ovulation test, it detects oestrogen too.

May I ask what preconception vitamins you used?

Oh don’t worry it’s actually better to do it the day before and have the sperm up there waiting! Sometimes when you test in the morning and get the positive opk it can already have started in the middle of the night and your too late the day of! Def DTD tonight!! Sending baby dust to you!!

Of course! I have been taking pregnacare pre conception for about 3 months now! Yes I’m sure the CB Advanced ovulation tests will work similar! Honestly I think detecting the estrogen days was a game changer for me, I pretty much discarded them and focused too much on catching my ovulation day! Good luck!!

@Birchtree4 that's what I have too, hopefully they work for us!

Pre seed worked for me too!

Thanks @lola19, I had been out off pregnacare as some say it gives irregular cycles but seems to have worked for you so may continue.

@mooloop great! Bit pricey but hopefully a good investment! X

Yeah I was wary too as I’d read the same but it didn’t affect me!

Thank you! I think I might try this next month. I’ve been trying for about 7 months but am not very good at remembering to check my BBT first thing in the morning. This will probably work better...

Definitely worth a try! Good luck 🥰

Hello!

I got my first solid smiley face on these ever this morning- been testing for 4 days with circles. Then this morning smiley! Go go go!
Haha

Slightly earlier than I thought I had been ovulating also - fingers crossed!

Can it still be peak without the flashing face?

Hi, a bit late but I used the Clear Blue and got a flashing smiley and then the next day a static smiley so I would use for a few more days. Good luck!

Thanks for this! Out of interest, what’s your diet like? Do you have much caffeine or sugar on a day to day basis?

No problem Hmm I usually have between 2-3 cups of tea a day... and sugar wise I do eat something sweet every lunch time/ usually after dinner too... like 1 chocolate biscuit with my tea after dinner and again some sort of biscuit/small piece of chocolate with lunch! Weekend I tend to binge a bit more with a takeaway but I do calorie count so midweek and am pretty strict with it? I also work out 2-3 times a week!

laura2093 apologies I’ve only just seen your message I would say no you need to wait for the flashing smiley for your peak day! I was so confused when I used the monitor because I had 7 high days before my peak but it did come eventually! My advice is do it as much as you can as soon as you get the static smileys!

@Lola19 hello! All I got was the static smiley face no flashing? What so you reckon it was?