Ttc #2 at 36 and overweight

[Rachy11]

Hi everyone! Just joined today as my partner and I have decided we really want baby number 2. I’ve came off the pill and trying to be all round healthier however starting to stress that as I’m overweight and over 36 should I not be trying and try to get the weight off first if that makes sense? With my little girl it took us 5 cycles to get pregnant. Good luck to everyone trying I can still remember the nerves and excitement of the 2ww and then getting BFP xxx

Rachy can I ask how overweight is overweight? What's your BMI? I think there's a high proportion of us who are overweight going into baby #2 as it's so common and hard to lose baby weight but then if you're very unhealthy it could be worth having a go at changing your lifestyle for the better so you can have a better chance at a great pregnancy.

Just worked out my bmi and it’s 35 🙈 iv put so much on in lockdown. I want a baby so much and sooner rather than later but I’m worried that my age, weight and then this ongoing coronavirus means I’m going to be high risk. I have no other health issues and had a straight forward pregnancy last time although the Labour ended in an emergency c section. X

Plenty of people have babies while obese and it sometimes goes okay, sometimes causes problems but realistically people probably wouldn't advise you to try and get pregnant without trying to lose some weight, just because it seems like the responsible advice to give!

Could you give yourself a target like 3-6 months of getting healthier?