POF (Premature Ovarian Failure / Premature Menopause) - looking for info/people to talk to............

[looneytune]

Hi

For those who haven't seen me on other threads, I'm 31 and on 2nd cycle of ttc dc2.

I had blood test done yesterday to see if I've started the menopause as I have a family history of this (mum was 29, her mum was in 30's and so was her sister). Ds is now 4.5 and with dh being 46, we really want to conceive asap (like everyone does once they decide! ) so I'm looking ahead at options IF I'm not able to conceive myself.

I must say I've been very emotional about all this. We're all desperate for another baby in the family (incl. ds) and it's not helped by the fact I'm a childminder who has babies every day and the 2 I have at the moment started so young (7 weeks and 8 weeks, now 8 months and 6 months) and you really bond but at weekends it's back to just the 3 of us - ds is desperate for a little brother or sister.

I thought that if the result came back that I'm ok, then I'd be fine as thought it sort of could predict if you're likely to go through it in the near future. Well, Dr let me know yesterday that if I'm clear, I need to try and get pg ASAP as it could happen at any time and there is no warning from the blood tests.

At this stage, I can only think the route I'd want to take (if I had to) is IVF with donor eggs. Then I get all tearful about the thought that the baby wouldn't have my genetics etc. I know there must be lots of people who've had donor eggs and love their child to bits regardless and that's great, it's just so hard to think about it right now as this is all new and a bit of a shock.

I don't really know why I started this thread? Suppose I just want as much info as I can get, talk to people who know about this stuff, that sort of thing.

Anyone out there?

Feemac... I used ... not sued ... sorry for the typo! That's really a bad one to make !!
Hilary is excellent!

BTW my FSH readings were 89!

Hi Pupuce, how's it going? Thanks so much for clearing up that misunderstanding, I'm relieved as Hilary sounded like such a top woman on the phone, just what I need. Plus it's a big old drive for me to get to her.
Your story is ace, I hope you're really proud of yourself with your lovely little one. I think my diagnosis has just made me even more determined to get pregnant if anything. I devoured the Inconceivable book by Julia Indichova and feel totally empowered - even drank beetroot juice this morning & going to search out an Iyenga yoga class and some wheatgrass juice! I'll post to say how I get on with my Maya Womb Massage.

I also at the same time started to drink more nettle and dandelion teas ... I discovered (later) this was good for fertility issues... and also started making my own bread with sunflower and pumpkin seeds... those are good too I think!
So without actively trying to improve my diet I know I had started eating more things which are considered helpful.

hi. DH and I are now considering further fertility treatment. Its been a year since consultant told me I had zero chance of conceiving as I was in perimenopause stage of my life. First stage is to get my day 2 hormone levels checked (oestradiol and LH levels are an important factor as well as FSH).

Can I ask what information anyone else has had about fertility treatment. I know fsh should be under 10 before will allow ivf but I have read different theories. I know success rates are reduced. I am 39 with elevated FSH...not sure what my chances are!! am also concerned about impact ivf medication would have on my ovaries if they are struggling anyway to produce eggs.

PUPUCE and POPI70 - can i ask what other changes you made to lifestyle to help you conceive. I have been having acupuncture for a couple of years, for the last 12 months have improved my diet drastically but am wondering what else I could do...am willing to try anything! trying reflexology tomorrow.

thanks

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Dizzy36,
I was dx very quickly and even though FSH was around 60-ish I had no symptoms other than no period for 4 months. I had acupuncture, tried to eat as healthily as possible, I don't like alcohol anyway, and I had already given up smoking more than 3 years ago. I read a lot to understand what was happening to me, kept taking my BBT every morning, bought a fertility monitor as soon as my period had returned to make sure that if and when I ovulated I would take advantage of it, had lots of sex and was taking my pregnancy vitamins. Luck was also on my side.

HIJACK sorry Blueberry79 if you are watching this thread. Went to see the consultant today for more check out Temp Buddies thread

Hi
I just joined mumsnet and saw this post, hope you dont mind me crashing. I have surgical menopause, due to ovarian cancer and therefore had to have egg donation. I had my little girl in may this year.

I went thru all the emotions about her not looking like me etc, but those all melted away as soon as I saw her. As far as I am concerned she is mine.

I did a whole host of alternative therapy inc acupuncture and massages and am sure they contributed to my healthy PG.

Good luck on your journey to getting pregnant.

xx

Sorry, had no idea all these messages had been posted, came on to update the thread and just noticed. Haven't got the time to read through it all now plus I feel ready to drop (tiring day) but I promise to come back

I had my day 21 test today (well, it's day 23 for me today but my last cycle was 32 days so believe this is about the right time to take the blood???). I asked the nurse what my FSH result was as I'd only been told all was fine. It's 4.2 so presuming this is very normal? Hope so. I was so worried about all this at the start and am feeling more positive although I'd feel better if I had some EWCM around ovulation time as I'm yet to be sure about ovulation. Anyway, it's early days so I should stop worrying!!

One quick question......the tests I had done that were fine were done on CD8 and I know that they should have been done between CD? and CD7 - do you think 1 day difference matters?

looneytune -my understanding was that fsh, lh and oestradial should be done on day 2 (day 3 at some hospitals). If FSH was around 4 on day 2/3 then this is very good, am not sure what that level means on day 8 as levels start to decrease as approach ovulation

think I need to speak to the Dr then. Well, that prog. test I had at day 23 (usually done on day 21 but i had 32 day cycle last month) was probably done on the wrong day as I've just got AF on CD26 - I'm right aren't i, it was done too late?

sounds like dr was trying to establish if you ovulate by doing mid cycle test. I had one done and works best if have regular cycles as can pin point when 'surge' occurs to indicate that ovulation takes place. My dr took 2 blood samples (can't remember exactly which days) but the idea was to see if I ovulated. The 1st blood sample was invalid due to hospital cock up so couldn't give me an guarantee that I ovulated, but the second blood sample showed a rise in hormone levels indicating that I had most probably ovulated.

Day 2/3 checks are to check your FSH, LH and oestradiol to basically see how fertilie you are I suppose. I ovulate most months but my high FSH indicates that my eggs are not at their best.

hope this helps and I haven't confused you too much

any of you ladies know what your oestradiol levels were on day 2. I keep hearing about the importance of fsh and lh but not oestradial, is it not that important. Just had new tests done. FSH down to 9.3 (not bad) lh - 4 and oestradiol - 86 which I've been told by my gp that is a bit low and could increase chance of abnormalities. my gynae tells me anything over 180 is not good, who is right.

all this time been told that high fsh indicates reduced ovarian reserve and quality of eggs and now I'm being told that oestradiol is also a major factor

anyone have any more information

I just came across this link are there stil people with high fsh out there?? if so please help!!