Sorry if this is the wrong place - which one am I more likely to conceive from?

[RoseWhite94]

So I slept with an ex boyfriend (stupid I know, a year after we split) back on the 16th August and then my best friend on 21st August. Ex was unprotected (stupid stupid) and best friend was with a condom. However I am 14 weeks pregnant. According to my app (at the time) I was due to ovulate on 23rd August, putting my ex 7 days prior, I was told by a doctor and two midwives that it is more likely my friends - one midwife even said its practically impossible to be my exs regardless of the condom!

But at my scan last week I was brought forward two days, putting my ex at 5 days and my friend at the day I ovulated.

I had previously been trying for a baby with my ex but we decided to stop and a couple of months later split up. I really hate to be TMI but he has to , er, help himself and then quickly go back in before he finishes. He did that this time.

Basically what I'm asking is which time am I more likely to be pregnant from? From what I read there is only a 5% chance that my ex's sperm lived that long and considering he never got me pregnant the 8 months we were trying when we were together I have my doubts. I know it can take up to a year (or more) but I just think after sleeping with my friend that its pretty likely his

Ps. Both men are aware. Friend is more currently involved. All 3 of us think it's my friends

With both instances of sexual being so close, it’s impossible to say. You’ll need a dna test

DNA when baby arrives. It is the best way of finding out.

But surely its more likely from the day of ovulation?

Surely it’s more likely to have been the unprotected sex than when you used a condom?

Impossible to tell with only 5 days in between. Those apps aren’t always accurate.

Day of ovulation is an estimate even with app. I'd say likelihood is the one you didn't use protection with but only cert is a DNA test

Put it like this -

Ex - 5% chance.

Friend - 2% chance. Condoms have a 98% success rate.

Both really low chances, but its clearly happened. Id wait and do a DNA test.

I’d suspect your ex as well. My child was conceived 7 days prior to ovulation (I was using OPK’s) so it is perfectly possible.

The chances of conceiving when a condom was correctly worn would be smaller.

Surely apps are just indicative for ovulation, and have a few days’ leeway; as they are based on general trends rather than your specific cycle? I’m surprised 3 medical professionals didn’t tell you that.

Sorry Op, it sounds like you desperately want it to be your best friend, but I think it’s more likely that the unprotected sex made you pregnant, and you need a DNA test to make sure.

Good point about the apps being indicative.

I ovulate on day 18 of a 28/29 day cycle so they were always out for me, I have a short luteal phase.

You're more likely to get pregnant from sex 1-2 days before ovulation than the actual day of, if I recall correctly.

Do you know what the date was of the first day of your period - proper flow, not spotting?

Most likely your ex's but could be friend's I guess. DNA test is the only way I'm afraid. You can do it with a simple non-invasive blood test nowadays.

dnacentre.co.uk/dna-paternity-test/prenatal-paternity-test/

Sorry for delayed reply! It was the 31st July, I have quite a long cycle, 37 days! Yes that's what I read too which is why I think it's my friends.

I agree with @CAG12

There's only a 2% chance it's your friends. Think about it, if he wore a condom, then no sperm entered you... you need sperm to conceive a baby!

I would place my bets on it being the man who's sperm actually entered you- your ex.

And just because an app estimates your day of ovulation, doesn't make it fact! Sometimes we ovulate at weird times in the month!! I would assume you ovulated earlier than what the app says.

Best of luck with everything, and congratulations