CD3 TTC

[Nova324]

Hi Everyone
so as you can tell AF arrived this month which means back onto TTC. Im on cycle day 3 so just thought i'd see if anyone else was on the same timeline as me so we can talk about stuff through out the month. I don't really have anyone to talk about all this with as I don't want all my family knowing we are TTC and also my DP gets really weirded out by all the ins and outs of it all.. anybody elses like that?
Just some background. I came off the pill after 10 years in April so this is my 3rd cycle.. as far as TTC goes haven't been trying trying but this month I've decided we're really going for it poor DP has no idea

so this month is not going well i dont think. im on cd 22 and still havent had a postive OPK so confused. dont think ive missed it tho cause i started testing from cd9 and i had a few that got darker but nothing near control line. so now im thinking im ovulating late? or maybe not at all? i stupidly though if you get your period that means you ovulate but realised that doesnt have to happen to get it. also there hasnt been much DTD this month. not for any particular reason just the way things have worked out so.. im feeling pretty CRAP about the whole thing really. cant help but think there is something wrong with me

hows everyone else getting on?

@Nova324 sorry you're feeling down. Are you using the strip opk? What time of day do you test? How long are your cycles normally? Lots of questions!

Hi @Skyla01 @Nova324 sorry for my quietness I've been away and been on nights! I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling down, honestly I completely get that feeling and I think every woman going through this feels that way at some point and I think you'd be abnormal not to!! I've only caught my peaks on OPKs twice out of 6 cycles and my surges only last a few hours if that on OPKs so don't be disheartened, I know it's so hard though! sometimes BFPs happen on months like this, but equally if not, then next month give it a good go without OPKs just regular DTD around mid cycle and maybe some date nights to encourage DTD? I hope you feel better soon!
I'm currently 7DPO not feeling confident about this month but kind of in that what will be will be mood this month! Chin up xxx

@Skyla01 yeah.. I know I'm being stupid because it hasn't been very long but cant help but worry.. that's what I always do!

I take it when I get home at about half 5 and have done a few after 7ish. I cant really do any during the weekdays cause I'm at work all day.

And yeah just the strip ones and then use premom with it to track.. and I'm unsure as my cycle has been a different length every month since coming off the pill! But between 29-34 it has been!

@Nova324 it sounds possible you haven't ovulated yet but also you might have missed the surge. I haven't used those opk myself but some people find they don't work well for them so I wouldn't worry too much. It's probably the sticks not you.

Ttc can be pretty stressful, it's common to have down days. If you aren't successful this month have you thought about trying something like smep? We've done that this much. It basically means lots of DTD so you give yourself the best chance. You're meant to use opk with it but you don't have to, could just DTD part.

@amiejb25 I'm 8dpo so we are similar! I've followed smep this month so feeling optimistic! But also trying not to get hopes up too much so I'm not gutted when AF shows up. It's a tricky balance! Must be hard to fit in DTD with night shifts?

@Skyla01 oh we are really close! When are you going to start testing? I get what you mean, but I can't help but get a little part of me excited which I know isn't useful when AF arrives!
It isn't easy when I'm on nights but luckily this month I had my week off/birthday around O so lots of DTD as well, that's definitely the way forward how are you feeling? I'm getting small cramps today and sore nipples but I usually get the soreness before AF anyways so not overthinking!! Xx

I'm glad you got busy around ovulation! My AF is due a week today. Not planning to test until I'm 2 or 3 days late, if AF stays away. How about you? I've had a few cramps, maybe implantation..., but that's settled down now. Just feels like a very long two weeks!

@Skyla01 well done you for being so patient! Well I have caved and taken a cheapie tonight and I think there is a faint line but not getting my hopes up until missed AF with BFP! I've had a few little cramps but not sure if I'm overthinking things! Will you test with your partner there? Xx

Thanks girls. Glad to know it's normal just hard being patient sometimes but tomorrow is a new day! I think I'm just ready for AF now so I can start fresh next cycle. Gonna keep up with the opks til the end of this cycle tho just incase it's trying to be longer again!

Omg i have my fingers crossed so hard for you both this month! Things are sounding good! @amiejb25 was it a wee squinter? You never know! Keep us updated when you can! @Skyla01

And I'd love to see the pics from you both when you test! I have Everything crossed for you both
( but not my legs cause that would make DTD pretty hard )

@amiejb25 it's still early days, try again in a few days and hopefully you'll have a clearer answer! You know I actually keep it to myself when I'm testing. I think it's a way of containing disappointment. Last cycle I got a BFN the day before AF came. I didn't even tell OH I'd tested, just that AF came. I'll probably do the same this cycle. If af is coming I expect she'll be right on time anyway to spoil the fun!

@Nova324 I would have a look at the smep for an option to try next month. I found it helpful to follow- I feel more in control and optimistic. I would also recommend cb digital opk but they are expensive. If you got the 20 stick box it will probably do 2 or 3 cycles though.

So I didnt do an opk at my normal time today.. because it's the weekend and I kinda forgot but just got home and was almost like..cba but i just thought might aswell and i got a positive!

So... cd24.. even later period than last month? Can you get a positive opk close to period time?
Everything is about a week off what my app predicted so could my period be due earlier?

Also DTD today so would that also work if I am ovulating now? Dont think we have a chance to do it again for a few days.. but just still so amazed! The test line was actually waaaay darker than the control.. showed up like straight away!

@Nova324 hmmm difficult to be sure I think! Remind me, is this the first positive you've had this month? If so it probably does mean ovulation, just later than expected. Although I have heard of people getting multiple surges each cycle, including close to AF. If you dtd that would be very good timing.

Your cycle sounds a bit confusing this month. When AF arrives things might be a bit clearer (unless you get BFP of course!). Af usually comes around 14 days after ovulation so you can count back and find out when you ovulated. That might help you for future cycles, although not so useful just now.

Yeah @Skyla01 this was the first positive I've had this month so quite late on.. that's why I was like cause if I'm only ovulating now adding another 14 days ish on this cycle will be nearly 40 days.. and I was so hoping the cycles would be getting shorter not longer! Bodies are soo confusing! If it could just let me know what was going on I'd feel much better haha

How is your TWW going? any signs of AF?

@Nova324 maybe it is a long cycle. Make sure you dtd just in case! I'm also predicted 40 day cycle this time, although that's a bit shorter than last one.

I'm 11dpo. Had a few cramps last week and felt a bit rubbish but that's all gone now. Af is due Thursday so hoping usual pms cramps stay away! Not planning to test unless I'm a few days late so just a waiting game now! I think best guess you're ovulating today? Just about to start the TWW!

I know! Just not sure we have a chance to DTD the next few days but fingers crossed we can! I'm just still kinda happy that I even seen a positive for the first time on the opk even if it is later than expected lol

I'm hoping AF stays away for you! You haven't got long to go tho. Is it hard resisting the urge to POAS @skyla01

Nah, I'm kinda going against the grain here but I don't really see the point in testing early. Chances are AF will show up and save me the bother! And seeing people having cp has put me off too. I will try and be patient.

Seeing a positive opk is great! It helps you know when AF is due too. I feel like its easier if you know what's going on.

I know @Skyla01 it's better to wait til your late at least because I think then you dont know about a CP which will just give your more heartache.

Are you not feeling optimistic this cycle?

Oh posted before I was done lol yeah I feel a bit better now knowing I've actually got a positive opk cause I was close to giving up on them thinking it was no good. So if anything comes outa this cycle it'll be that!

@Skyla01 @Nova324 hope you're both okay, any news either way for you? I do agree not testing early is the way forward but this month I did and I've got the clearest BFP 😊 feeling extremely anxious and nervous and not excited yet due to the previous losses but we will see what time brings x

@Skyla01 @Nova324 hope you're both okay, any news either way for you? I do agree not testing early is the way forward but this month I did and I've got the clearest BFP 😊 feeling extremely anxious and nervous and not excited yet due to the previous losses but we will see what time brings x

@Skyla01 @Nova324 hope you're both okay, any news either way for you? I do agree not testing early is the way forward but this month I did and I've got the clearest BFP 😊 feeling extremely anxious and nervous and not excited yet due to the previous losses but we will see what time brings x

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@amiejb25 congrats! I really hope this works out for you after everything.

My AF arrived today so back to square one for me. Will try smep again.

Awwk congrats @amiejb25 I have everything crossed for you for a wee sticky baby! i think this was a really good month for you so sending lots of positive thoughts your way!

aw sorry to hear that @Skyla01 is that a few days early? only good thing about AF arriving means back to CD1 and a fresh cycle. sending you lots of positive thoughts also and hoping this is your month!