Hi all, am back now and have a nice glass of wine to, erm, help with the typing.
BlueCrane what happened to you re the MMC is almost exactly the same as what happened to us, apart from I had no inkling that anything was amiss. In fact, I naively assumed that all was going to be fine as I still felt very pregnant and presumed that if something had gone wrong I'd have known somehow. How wrong I was! After the shock of the 12 week scan, we had to wait another week for a re scan (bloody long week that was) and then, after a LOT of hassle, had a ERPC booked for the 15th July. (The hassle was as the docs wanted me to have 'medical management' instead as I am a Type 1 diabetic and they said the GA would have been risky - this is bollocks but won't go into the ins and outs now.) However, come Wednesday night I had the most horrific cramping - they came in waves, just like, I imagine, contractions would - followed by VERY heavy bleeding to the extent where 999 was called (am not melodramatic, trust me!) The docs, in both A&E and the gynea ward where I was later admitted, were great and, with various drugs, managed to stem the bleeding without resorting to surgery. Apparently clots can cause further bleeding so they had to, euw, dig them out.
So, that's my story re the MMC and yes, it was my first pregnancy. I am now keen to start again once I am back to normal down there but DH is not keen. We have recently moved and are currently living in a building site and money is obviously tight. We had the BFP a week after moving so then it was panic stations to get the house as ready as possible by Jan (due date was 17th) but obviously now there isn't the same rush. DH has spoken about getting the house sorted and 'living in it' before we even contemplate TTC (the first preg was planned tho) but I don't want to wait. Bizarrely, I spent quite a lot of the pregnancy panicking about whether I had done the right thing but the last few weeks before the scan I started to get really into the idea, properly so, rather than feeling frustrated and stuck which is how I felt a lot of the time in the first few weeks.
insomniaQueen my friend also got pg immediately after a miscarriage too. I have since been Googling and it seems to happen rather a lot. Congrats!
MissGiraffe1 I have spoken to my DH vaguely about how I feel, but it has contrasted so much with what he was saying that I ended up clamming up a bit. I think he is freaked out as I was in a lot of pain and there was a lot of blood etc etc and he says it 'has put him off.' I am also still quite tired and pale which I suppose is making the gruelling physical side harder to ignore. For the moment at least. Am consuming spinach like a demon at the moment though (the iron tablets bunged me up something chronic so am now on one a day instead of 3.)
MarathonMama congrats on your BFP too! I think I remember your name from the miscarriage threads. I know already that my normally laid back demeanor will vanish if I get a BFP. Metalling indeed!