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Can we change the way we work Santa

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mummyof2boys30 · 15/11/2020 11:59

Normally Santa gives all gifts (from us) including stocking. Grandparents etc give them when they visit. This year though (10 & 8) they are getting a ps5. Its way more than normal budget and kinda want to get some of the credit 😉. Dont know how to go about it. 8 year old definitely believes. 10 year old hasnt said either way.

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JamesAnderson · 15/11/2020 12:59

In our house Santa was just a delivery service.

Even from a young age they were told presents were bought by various people and sent to Santa for him to bring on Christmas Eve

SalmonEile · 15/11/2020 13:01

Could you tell them that because Santa has so many kids asking for ps5 this year you’ve decided to buy it instead and that Santa could bring a game / headphones (or whatever ) for it?

CodenameVillanelle · 15/11/2020 13:01

That's the problem with the way you do it. Just give them the PS4 from you.

Morgan12 · 15/11/2020 13:03

I think if you change it it will just confuse them and raise questions. This is probably your 10 year olds last year believing. Keep the magic. They will know one day it was all you.

OhioOhioOhio · 15/11/2020 13:03

You'll get the credit eventually. Honestly I wouldn't at all worry about it.

Juststopswimming · 15/11/2020 13:03

We have also operated like this and want to change it so that stocking/small gifts are from Santa and big gifts are from us. We are using covid as an excuse for why things will be different this year!

cloverbug · 15/11/2020 13:05

What if it is from Santa and you? Or if you gave the console and Santa gives some games to go with it? Smile

ramblingsonthego · 15/11/2020 13:06

We have always done santa brings the stocking and delivers the presents but all the presents are from us, family etc.....

We have done it so our children know some other children will get more and some less as it is what their parents or family can afford. Nothing worse than seeing a child wonder why santa didn't like them as much as he bought their best friend xyz and they got x.

AhNowTed · 15/11/2020 13:09

You can't change it now.

And wanting the credit is just silly.

Let the kids enjoy Santa while they can.

HumphreyGoodmanswife · 15/11/2020 13:13

We used to do the same OP when they were younger. Then we gradually started giving some(the best Wink) presents from us and a few less from Father Christmas.

Every year the pile from us has gradually increased and the big guys stack has slightly decreased. They still have a stocking in their rooms and a sack from FC downstairs, but it mainly contains games, books, jigsaws etc. The real presents are left under the tree from us.

They have never commented on their sacks overflowing less and less and are very grateful for what they receive from us. Neither have I ever offered a reason to them.

Tbh I wish we'd done this from the start, but we both only had presents from Father Christmas as children so just followed suit when ours were born!

Darkestseasonofall · 15/11/2020 13:15

Surely seeing the kids delighted is rewarding enough, you don't really need children to thank you profusely.
Leave it as is, it's only another year or two at most.

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mummyof2boys30 · 15/11/2020 13:35

I know we should never of done it the way we do , it was the way things where done when i was wee and never thought to change it up. Think il stick with it this year as it will be eldest last year believing. Thanks everyone for your responses. I had thought due to it being a console (santa never brought one before) we could maybe say the elves don't make them as need made in a factory so we had to contribute to it

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maxineputyourredshoeson · 15/11/2020 13:58

Could you not just say as it’s been a crappy year etc you decided to get them an extra special present from you. Then the rest can be from FC as usual.

reginaphalangeeee · 15/11/2020 14:09

I think changing it now is pointless at their age, the eldest especially probably will know the truth soon enough. Just let them enjoy the magic and think Santa got them the PS5! I’d rather enjoy the magic than have the credit.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 15/11/2020 14:43

Nobody but you will benefit from changing it now. Ditch the glory seeking, they can appreciate it when they stop believing. You are likely to ruin the last year or two of them both believing for your own advantage if you change it now.

Bikingbear · 15/11/2020 14:44

Op I'd leave it, I'm half surprised that they both still truly believe. I sometimes think kids play along thinking of they admit they know they'll get less.

This could very well be their last year believing. In fact my eldest then 8 figured it out just before Christmas last year.

burglarbettybaby · 15/11/2020 14:44

Why do you need the credit. Its meant to be magical. The 10 year old likely knows.

PegasusReturns · 15/11/2020 14:48

Just give it to the DC from you.

They’ll still get Santa presents and stockings and then you can say the big present was from you.

DC won’t think twice about it.

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mummyof2boys30 · 15/11/2020 15:42

Dc8 definitely still believes, has SEN, 10 year old prob doesn't but hasnt said. Will leave it as we normally done it as wont be too many more year's

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Anoisagusaris · 15/11/2020 15:46

Looking for credit for Santa presents is something I’ve only seen on here. It’s a bit pathetic really. Personally I love the fact that Santa brings presents that the kids think we would never buy them. It’s all part of Christmas and the magic for kids. I don’t need any credit for it. I’ll take the credit for cooking a nice dinner though! That’s enough.

grumpytoddler1 · 15/11/2020 15:51

Tell them Santa sends you a bill after Christmas!

lobsteroll · 15/11/2020 16:12

Why do you want the credit? I do find that a bit odd to be honest. In a few years they won't believe anyway and you can have all the credit then.

I definitely wouldn't change things. If your 10 year old still believes, but is starting to doubt, he will probably twig if suddenly the main present is from you. You wouldn't want him to realise the truth on Christmas Day itself.

Hophop26 · 15/11/2020 19:57

I don’t see why you can’t gift it to them from you, without it actually changing how you do it, just you are getting them a gift on top. At 8 and 10 I would think they can understand the concept of their parents giving them a gift without it being confusing on undermine Santa. Just give it to the separately to the Santa presents etc? Maybe stockings then gift the console from you during breakfast and away from the tree, then tree presents after

Viv0321 · 15/11/2020 20:17

I agree with hophop.

kowari · 15/11/2020 20:20

Don't they question why you don't get them anything?