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All presents from Santa?

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StrongerThanIThought76 · 26/10/2017 08:26

I've been asked not to wrap presents for a family member (child) as parents want to wrap all gifts in the same paper so child doesn't get confused about some gifts not coming from Santa.

AIBU to think that presents from Santa should be up to parents to sort and anything else SHOULD actually be given separately?

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Changerofname987654321 · 26/10/2017 08:28

Yep I agree. How else do children learn to thank the giver?

But then we are planning to say that the stocking is from Santa and the rest from others.

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StrongerThanIThought76 · 26/10/2017 08:33

We have stockings and main present from Santa then everything else from mum, dad, siblings, gps etc. Child is old enough to understand that others will give presents but still believes in Santa

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Lovemusic33 · 26/10/2017 08:47

Presents from santa/parents are from Santa (stocking and large present),presents from relatives are from relatives, why should santa get all the credit when family members have payed and chosen gifts?

sweetsomethings · 26/10/2017 08:57

I would not be happy with that at all. My children have always had all presents from Santa except those from relatives and friends those have always been from them. It doesn't confuse the kids at all .

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 08:59

That's bonkers and you need to tell her so. On the other hand when her DC stop believing in Santa then you don't need to buy preents anymore....

We made the mistake of giving all our (parents) gifts from Santa originally and then had to back track and make the main gift from us and rest from Santa, I thought that's what your thread was going to be about.

Gifts from others (usually just an envelope with money) were always given seperately.

Santa does use different paper from parents gifts in our house. even though DSs are teenagers!

strawberrypenguin · 26/10/2017 09:01

That’s daft. Children should be able to thank the giver. Also how else do they learn about giving to others?

I also don’t like all presents from Santa because how do you explain their friends getting ‘the’ Christmas toy if they don’t. Or if we have a tough year financially and can’t afford a lot for Christmas I’d rather the kids know that. Santa does stockings here!

LivingInTheSeventies · 26/10/2017 09:04

Our Santa brings some chocolates and a candy cane and book.
We give them a couple of gifts.

LosingMyWay · 26/10/2017 09:11

My mil does this and it annoys me. She buys my dc presents and labels them from Santa (again I hate this as we call him Father Christmas). I’ve asked her not too as I want the kids to know who they’ve come from so they can appreciate it more and be thankful

ApollO88 · 26/10/2017 09:23

Santa’s very busy and only does stockings in our house and everything else is a gift from the person who’s giving it

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 09:25

My Mum would give her actual presents from her (or give us money to buy DC something from her) but always kept a small thing from Santa at her house. SHe always pretended that Santa realised he'd forgotten to leave it but was closer to her house than ours so left it there for them to get when visiting. It was quite nice, but I'd be annoyed about her labelling everything from Santa though the thought behind it isn't to be annoying I would guess. She just wants to be involved and misses the whole magic.

LosingMyWay · 26/10/2017 10:58

You’re right wax she does just want to be involved, which is fair enough m. But she never knows when to stop and always goes too far.
I’ll suggest just one from Father Christmas from her

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 11:06

Seems like a good compromise - I suppose there are worse problems to have but appreciate it's annoying when you want to do Christmas your way and I think you are right that the DC get to appreciate who has bought what for them and acknowledge that to the giver.

I have sons so saving all these potential issues up so I don't end up inadvertantly annoying their partners :o

SideOrderofSprouts · 26/10/2017 11:08

All presents from
Me and dh (and sometimes my parents when they ask) are from Father Christmas. We get them one present each, usually a late ask item. Dd1 stopped believing this last year and she has thanked us for all the years of magic and all the presents

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 11:10

I dont know how close you are, but could you involve her in some things that don't result in huge amounts of gifts? Could she take DC to a panto or christmas show or even a movie insead? Maybe some christmas baking or cup cake decorating? You could get peace to get your wrapping done if nothing else and it would give her less time to shop :)

ohmyblob · 26/10/2017 12:04

I only have one believer now, and he is really dragging it out! We do stocking and one gift from Santa and the rest from us/whoever has given it. In reality, as he has got older the Santa gift has got smaller in size as its been things like a DS game, so it fits in the stocking. All gifts from Santa is just bonkers.

LosingMyWay · 26/10/2017 12:08

Thanks wax Tbf, I have relaxed loads since the dc we’re smaller (they’re 8 & 4 now) and have realised that if she is willing to spend on dc money that I not able to, then why not?!
Also, she lives quite far away, so I think it’s her way of being involved.
I’ll still mention to put some from her though as I do want the dc to appreciate what she does

LosingMyWay · 26/10/2017 12:09

How old is your believer oh?

Both of mine still believe and eldest is 8.

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 12:20

Mine are 17 and 16 so they still get a big gift bag (one of the massive ones) as full as I can make it by adding in stuff to last them the year and we label it from Santa Wink. They have a smaller felt sack that gets filled with mainly foodstuff as their "stocking" and that gets hung on their door handle.

Mine were older than 8 - more like 11 before they stopped believing (or stopped convincing themselves that they believed).

WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 12:21

Exactly OP, you don't want them to grow up thinking that she never bought them anything.

BiddyPop · 26/10/2017 12:21

I have a doubting believer - she probably stopped believing a couple of years ago, tried to catch us out on Christmas Eve last year, but has pretty much made it clear that she doubts this year. She's almost 12.

But she does still see her early-30s DUncle getting his stocking filled on Christmas Eve in DGPs house. So that helps her keep doubting Xmas Grin!

I will have a chat about belief and magic this year, but still do stockings after that. But we've always had every present under the tree being from the person who gave it (including something to DD from DH and I - as we give to each other too, and DD gives to us) - Santa brings the stocking fillers and a large thing or 2 alongside that.

Believeitornot · 26/10/2017 12:22

In our house Santa does the stocking. We do the big gifts and quite rightly take the glory Grin

I remember reading a thread once where a child thought their parents didn’t love them because only Santa gave them Christmas presents GrinShockSad

MiaowTheCat · 26/10/2017 12:28

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WaxOnFeckOff · 26/10/2017 12:29

i think mine believed for longer than average as we were very very generous at Christmas so they thought there is no way that M&D would have bought them all that! :o

Getoffthetableplease · 26/10/2017 12:33

In our house the majority of presents are gifts from us and other loved ones and they mostly go under tree as we get them. The stockings and one or two things from the kids' lists are from Santa and get put there on Christmas Eve. Our best friends have a little girl who gets all kinds of confused as to why we have gifts under our tree and all of hers only appear on the day wrapped and brought by Santa. I just don't get why they have gone out of their way to do it this way when it makes everything so much more complicated for everyone and inevitably their little one frustrated and questioning every house they visit in December Hmm.

NoWordForFluffy · 26/10/2017 12:35

I wish I could reverse it in our house so Santa only does the stockings. Too late now though, bugger!

He doesn't get all of the presents though, and they know that we, as well as other relatives, but presents too. 🎅🎅🎅