DS9 is starting at a local Catholic school in January next year.
We (DH and I) are humanists and Presbyterian and Anglican church-musicians (singing in choirs and playing organ for the last 30+ years); and DS attends Sunday School, sings in the choir and plays the organ for Sunday morning services at our local Presbyterian church.
We wanted him to attend the Catholic school partly because it's absolutely tiny and has good pastoral care, but mostly so he spends time in school specifically on developing his knowledge of and belief in social justice, care and concern for others, and worthwhile, dignified participation in community. There are no local primary schools that are Protestant, and the state schools don't teach ethics, so the only choice for this is Catholic. Thankfully the Catholics were happy enough with our reasoning and happy to take him.
If attending a Catholic school ultimately leads him into a faith journey into Catholicism, we’d support him in that, to the extent possible, since we're not Catholic.
The local Catholic parish runs a sacramental programme for children, leading up to baptism/ confirmation/ first Holy communion. Parents go along too. It's run by the priest who signed the form to allow DS into the Catholic school.
Would it be really naive/ unwise of me to ask if DS could be allowed to attend the sacramental classes so that he can learn a bit in advance about the specifics of Catholicism, so he has a clue what is going on when he gets to the school?
Would that be viewed as taking advantage since he's not really entering the programme with the intention of becoming Catholic (yet, anyway)?
Or could it be viewed as appropriate engagement from a family who is showing curiosity and goodwill and who otherwise would be less effectively engaged with the school and parish?