Friend's baby is going to be born with a few problems, I'm worried about how DD will react and don't want to upset friends, any advice?

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If the baby has just a cleft palate as my ds1 did then it won't be obvious anyway. If he has a cleft lip too then I would, as others have suggested, show your dd a picture of what to expect first and explain that the baby won't be in pain.
Good luck to your friend..wow triplets!

any update??