Hi so this is kind of complicated me and so have two children with a ten year age gap! We had our first back in 2003,
After getting a house etc DP used to pay for all bills , I paid for shopping/food. We were VERY lucky as my mum and MY family did all the childcare for our dd
FAST FORWARD to ten years later in that time we had a huge break up I managrd to get my own house on a mortgage , now just over two years ago we got back together and I got pregnant with our second baby (another dd)
Now as we got back together I moved into his house (the original house) but this time maybe cos we’ve lived separately he’s expecting me to pay for much more EVEN THOUGH I still have a mortgage on my own house which I rent out to students now n so I do not get an Income but not a steady one
Now out youngest is 7 months old I am going back to work next week only for three days initially but after Sept I am hoping to go full time
PEASE HELP- it looks like dp is expecting me to pay the childcare costs as “im going back to work so I have to find the childcare” I’m really confused and upset. I don’t understand it all - I HAD to go on maternity leave and get a rubbish pay and no wait in going back have got to sort this out child care
ATM we have his parents doing two days and mine doing one but when I go back full time I’ll obviously need two days from a childminder
Please anyone from te uk explain you’re chidlcare arrangements. I.e who does what? How often? What childcare arrangements and who pays for what?
I just think it’s out of order for dp to expect me To do it all and finance it too, I just need to know what other couples do? Maybe it would help (ATM were constantly arguing which isn’t good for the kids)
Is anyone in a SIMILAR position to us? As in you have separate bank accounts, you pay for things separately? Who does the childcare costs?
Oh and DP earns more on 30k I’m only on 15
Please advise thank you