how can I get a dc to listen? CM asking x

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I look after a dc before and after pre school 3 days a week. He is very loud, screams a lot and generally disagrees with what everyone says even when he is blatantly wrong. He is also extremely poor at following instructions and completely ignores you when you ask him to do something to the point where you have to bend down and speak right in front of his face iyswim. He has nothing wrong with his hearing. As you can imagine, this is quite warring and I find myself feeling annoyed with him a lot. How would you approach this? Mum and Dad know but are very inconsistent. Dad is extremely harsh and Mum is very soft. Dc is 4 by the way.

Getting down to his level to chat is what one would expect to do with a 4 yr old any way

Are you absolutely sure that you are not issuing multiple instructions (shoes on, coat on, get your bag please)

Model indoor and outdoor voice

Not sure about the disagree thing, is it worse because you feel the understandable need to correct him every time? How do you feel about acknowledging his P o V and chatting through stuff with him?

Or what Frusso said!

Thanks for the quick replies. We do do the indoor/outdoor voices (as do pre school) although it makes no difference. The ignoring thing is what I find the most difficult. I will talk to mum about a hearing test. I do simple commands eg.'Please put your shoes on now' which I repeat again and again. I am a naturally laid back person, but i am finding this hard. I don't have to talk to the faces of other dc of this age.