Most have nest or mnt - I don't - but I'm a nneb nanny (ie old) and had countless years exp with newborns including twins
I keep thinking about doing one of the quals but I get so much work without it that I havnt as of yet
In the end you need to go with your gut instinct and who you feel happy with. I have been offered positions against those who do have the above quals tho obv some Families only want nest mnt
Family im with at moment is my 4th this year and 5th booked middle dec
Speak to on phone to get a feel. Check refs. I take driving license dbs first aid nanny insurance etc with me
Costs varies but I'm more costly then night nanny agency - £120 for twins in London is cheap - I'm not going to earn less for a night then my day job
Job at moment £15ph 10hr night £150 - single baby now 5 weeks was 10days old when started - got her in routine of 4hrs by time 3 weeks and feeds 10.30pm and normally 2.30/3am and back to sleep till 7am so the nights I'm not there mum does get a bit of sleep and every other night she gets 8/9hrs
hence my rough quote on other thread of just over £1.5k for 3 nights for a month but if stay for longer thenore costly
Agencies fees can be an extra £25/30 a night on top
You have to be comfortable with who you have or you won't relax and sleep
As I said on your other thread I have slept on a sofas a few times and it's fine - ikea sofa bed is very comfy :) but also a normal sofa with a duvet and pillow - so please don't worry that you don't have a spare bed
Really hope you get some help asap - if cost really isn't a problem and just a stingy dh then you need to make it clear to him you need some respite