CM club - children that lie........

[LoveMyGirls]

i really dislike the way that some children lie, just wondering how you deal with it when it becomes a problem?

today for eg i had a 4.5 yr old tell me that the 3yr old had biten him when i asked 3yo why he had done this he look bewildered and denied it so i asked 4yo where he had been biten which is when he confessed that he hadnt been biten at all - why do they do this? (make up silly lies that arent true in the slightest - i can understand elaborating or shifting blame if they have done something wrong) 4yo lies quite a lot about silly things - ius it an attention thing and how should i deal with it (to nip it in the bud) i dealt with it today by telling him it was wrong to try and get the other child into trouble for something he hadnt done and to say sorry to him.

I think most kids lie at this age. I don't like it either, but I believe it's natural and I even read somewhere it's supposed to be a sign of intelligence.

I think it's developmental/experimental ie how they discover that there are things that are true and make believe and also whether you or anyone else is omniscient

really? i love doing childminding but little things can be annoying like lying or whinging/ moody children i shall need to build an intolerence to it any tips ?

i never really thought of it like that, interesting the way they learn from absolutly everything is amazing! (im going to sound daft to all of you but im only a couple of months into minding and im loving how different all the children are)

LMGs here is a list of 'mothers descriptions of their children age 2,3,4. From 'Toddler Taming' 'percentage of age group that tell fibs age 2= 2%, age 3=26%, age 4= 37%.

LMGs whining and nagging: age2=83%, age3=65%, age 4 =85%.

Two of my school mindees told their headteacher that I make them work up the chimney and make them clean the toilet. I am expecting a visit from Ofsted very shortly ...

When talking about me to their friends, they say, "that's my evil childminder" (but that bit's not a lie, I guess!!)