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Newborn baby and Facebook - would you do that ?

25 replies

humhumhum · 06/09/2009 16:42

I understand the need to show off your baby, I have done that to a certain extent but what do you think about that :

This couple had just had their first baby a week ago..2 weeks before the birth, we had the daily update - J minus 12, J minus 11...but he was 1 week overdue so the dh stopped...Then he was born and he posted all the pictures, 1 minutes after birth, skin on skin with the mum, first bath, firts meeting with the gp, god father, god mother, first walk in the park...

Dont you think its too much, should it be kept a bit more personal ? Would you do that ? Every single little exposed on Facebook ?

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MrsBadger · 06/09/2009 16:50

depends on their settings

they are 'exposing' it only to friends they have chosen, no tto the general public

SixtyFootDoll · 06/09/2009 16:51

Its up to them what they do

mrswee · 06/09/2009 16:52

To be honest I probably use facebook to communicate to my friends when our baby arrives. I will put pictures up and probably some comments of first this and that.

But my profile can ONLY been seen by my friends and I have only added people who are friends or family, not acquaintances, work colleagues of friends of friends.

Lots of my friends live else where in the UK and abroad so it is a good way to let them see if they wish.

However I would stop short of starting a profile for my baby!

QuietlyTTC · 06/09/2009 16:53

If you think it's too much then hide them from your newsfeed - then you won't have to see their pictures

QuietlyTTC · 06/09/2009 16:53

Interesting first post btw, welcome to MN

corblimeymadam · 06/09/2009 16:58

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fanjolina · 06/09/2009 16:59

Not as bad as the couple I know who set up a profile for their newborn baby and wanted us all to befriend him, so we could keep track of his everyday ongoings.

Friends that did were subjected to hourly updates along the lines of:

'B has just done the biggest poop in his nappy'
'B has drool running down his chin'
'B loved kicking in the bath'

YAWN......................

MarthaFarquhar · 06/09/2009 17:01

I know a couple who did that, fanjolina. I wonder if it's the same people?

I ignored the friend request - you're never to young to learn the harsh reality of rejection, IMO.

fanjolina · 06/09/2009 21:51

I too ignored the friend request

Did you friends go to Bristol Uni?

notjustapuppymum · 07/09/2009 12:17

I find this an interesting post as it's something me and my partner have been discussing recently, prior to our first arrival in November.
We're not sure we want pics of the baby on anyones facebook pages (uncles, aunties etc. who use it) but not sure how to tell them as they'll probably think we're a bit mad.
I just think certain things should remain private and I don't want people I don't know looking at pics of my new baby on the internet.

Summerfruit · 07/09/2009 12:19

I wouldnt do that either, these are my precious moments !!

GoldenSnitch · 07/09/2009 12:33

I have pics of my DS in a separate album on my Facebook page. It can only be seen by friends. It's there if people want to look and as my family live a few hours drive away they normally do! People are free to ignore it of they want.

My status frequently mentions DS too but then as I am a SAHM, there's not generally a lot going on in my day with which he's not involved!

My family and I use it so they can keep up-to-date with what DS is doing. I don't think we're doing anyone any harm.

lynniep · 07/09/2009 12:37

I dont have an issue with it. My friends kept us updated on Facebook and it was fantastic - we knew she'd gone into labour - we knew how she was progressing - and we were all on tenterhooks. It was wonderful when her DH posted that baby had arrived safely, and a few hours later we got to see photos on there too.

JRocks · 07/09/2009 12:42

When dc2 finally decides to arrive, I expect we'll put a photo or two on facebook, because lots of our friends live abroad and family aren't all close by. The thing is, you can set it to be private, even to the point of banning specific people from seeing it, afaik. So I'll do that, and it's my business. But not every status update will be about burping/pooing/sleeping, so I don't expect anyone will notice, apart from those that are interested.

DawnAS · 07/09/2009 15:50

We have asked that no pictures of our LO are put on Facebook by family or friends. The trouble is, even friends of friends can see pics if your friends put them on facebook. So I think it's really risky as you never know who might be looking at them... We send pics to our friends directly, via email.

Obviously this is just a personal thing and each to their own really...

Hulababy · 07/09/2009 15:57

Up to them what they do. As a friend you can chose to hide the newsfeeds of their pictures.

I have quite a lot of picturs up of DD, which any of my friends (not general public or friends of friends, etc) and family can see. They go up so family mainly can see them and share. It is up to other friends if they wish to look at them or not.

Hulababy · 07/09/2009 15:58

DawnAS - you can set privacy settings to limit exactly who can and cannot see your pictures. Only friends on mine can, not friends of friends.

JRocks · 07/09/2009 18:04

I would expect friends or family not to put up pictures of children without checking first. So theoretically friends of friends cannot see pictures of DS and the imminent dc2, as my settings do not allow this. That said I'm not about to get hysterical if they appear in the background of another family's shots.

But like you say, each to their own

4andnotout · 07/09/2009 18:06

I can't see why it should bother you so much really, it's their baby to show off as they please.

Personally i have my settings so that only my friends can view my photo's.

WorzselMummage · 07/09/2009 18:06

That's what facebook is for isn't it ?

StretchFucksTheMailDaily · 07/09/2009 18:16

Hulababy, if a friend comments, or is tagged on your album, then their friends can see that whole album.

EldonAve · 07/09/2009 21:08

I thought that only happened if the pics were set so friends of friends could see them

fanjolina · 08/09/2009 10:28

Stretch - that depends on the settings. The default for photo albums is "friends of friends" but a lot of people change the setting for their albums to friends only, to avoid such an issue

EyeballsintheSky · 08/09/2009 10:43

I think FB is great for things like this. I have family in another country and it's great that I can put up pics of dd and they can see them. It's more reliable than emailing and as everyone has said, you can change your settings to friends only and if no one is tagged in the pictures then they won't show up in anyone else's profile. You can also email the link to people who aren't on FB so that they can see those pics only. Used correctly and cautiously it's a great website.

LissyGlitter · 08/09/2009 11:02

How is it risky? What is the risk? that someone might LOOK at your baby? Do you put a blanket over their head when out like Michael Jackson? You do know that people can't actually kidnap your child through the screen?

My DD is beautiful, and I love showing her off on my FB, and will do the same when the new one comes. In fact, most of my friends will probably learn of the birth through FB or a local forum I go on, because we won't have time to inform them all by carrier pigeon.

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