Hi folks,
Looking for any advice you can give me. I had dd 22mths ago, and it was an extremely traumatic birth for both of us - induced 12 days over, failed ventouse, followed by forceps, followed by shoulder dystocia. DD had a little paralysis for the start and limited arm movement which necessitated physio for 18mths. she also had really bad reflux all of which I now believe were related to the birth. She was 9lbs 4oz.
I had a 3rd degre episotomy which took quite a while to get over, and also pelvis probs for a number of months after as dd was lodged behind this and they had to get her out. I found the whole experience really bad, as did my dh. No one explained why things went wrong, and I kinda thought that maybe it was normal - but that I just coldn't hack it. This time around, I got the consultant to go through my old notes and she explained quite a bit to me and also said previous baby never fully engaged and was op, hence increasing the difficulties.
This time around, I have the chance to have a c-section due to the last birth and because they can't say that this one wil not also result in another dystocia. I have been scanned quite a bit during it due to a few other unrelated problems, but they feel the baby is very big. At 33wk scan, it was estimated at 7.5lbs. I know these scans can be very unreliable, but he/she obviously has a very big head from the measurements... They are going to scan again next week and then I have to decide on natural/caesarian. I would prefer to have natural because of recovery etc, but if I thought it was going to be like last time, then c-section recovery may be even easier. I also have quite severe spd - which the physio this time feels is related to last birth, and I don't want these to disimprove again due to another bad birth. The baby, at 36wks still seems very high, and I could therefore go another couple of weeks over again.
After this long post, what I would like to know is if you had a shoulder dystoci, did you have a subsequent fairly normal delivery, or a section. If you had a section, how did you feel the recovery compared, and if you had another traumatic "normal" delivery how was it?
thanks in advance for all the advice.