Am i being unreasonable??

[3lilgirlsxxx]

Is it unreasonable of me to not want my partners family turning up just after iv given birth??
We asked for some time to let my first child get used to having a little sister before they came round last time, and we got an abusive message of his mother.
I really dont want the same to happen with number three, i just want some time alone with my partner and my children as i will be tired and uncomfortable, is that wrong of me??
The relationship i have with his family anyway is strained to say the least!! What can i say or do??
Help

Yes I agree with that, I think that the rules should be the same for both.

But in general YANBU at all.

Iv just had this conversation. Im going to have no visitors at all apart from my children and patner. Itl be hard tho as i am so close to my mum.
I didnt feel like i bonded with my 2nd like i did with my first and i dont want to feel like that again. It might be selfish but i want her to myself for abit!!