Hi, I am fairly new to mumsnet but am feeling really down and need some advice.
DS1 was born 8 years ago after being induced due to 2 weeks overdue. 24hrs later still did not dilate past 5cm. SO had emergency c-sect. I was only 17 at the time.
Now 36 weeks with no.2. Spoke to midwifes as I would prefer an elective c-sect. They said fine, they would do it at 38 weeks..and was probabley better as did not dilate before, risk of scar rupture, and low sucess rate of vbac.
THEN saw obstratrician (spelling?) who said because of my age (26) she did NOT think I should have another c-sect. and that if i insisted then she still wont do it until I am 40 weeks...and if I go into labour naturally before 40 weeks then tough unless emergency!!!
Why are the midwifes and obs giving different advice?
Since she said this, I now cannot sleep,keep crying, have flash backs of DS1 trauma and am *&^tting myself about going into labour.
Reason for not wanting VBAC is did not dilate before and am terrified of going through labour and ending up with emergency c-sect anyway. (Also am a bit of a prude and cannot handle the whole dignity thing!) I know that I will not want more kids after this (as was dubious about this one at first.) I thought that if you had one c-sect they prefer you to have another?
Am interested in Mears advice or anyone else having elective c-sect?
dOES anyone know who I should talk to about my fears?
Thanks