I had a 3rd degree tear (3a) in July 2022. Everything has healed ok ish, I have no issues with continence, though if I cough or sneeze I can't always hold wind. I've done loads of pelvic floor exercises and seen a women's physio but it hasn't improved.
I was seen in the perineal clinic at 12 weeks post partum and the midwife who examined me said I'd healed beautifully but the scar tissue on my perineum/at the entrance to my vagina was very thick and needed a lot of massage.
But nearly 2 years on and sex is still painful where I tore. It doesn't bleed, but if I look at it afterwards, it looks as if I have a tiny split in my skin that is open. It goes/heals if I don't have sex for a bit but then it usually comes back when I have sex again.
Obviously I know this isn't normal. I was referred to gynae by my GP and I have an appointment next month, just wondering if anyone who has been through similar can give me any idea of what to expect?
I am really very reluctant for any sort of surgical intervention as I feel like I've been messed with enough after giving birth and whilst I don't suffer with any incontinence or pain on a day to day basis I don't want to take any risks that might change that. Thanks x