Midwife vbac appointment Faff

[wineapotamus]

Hi all. Me again .
I had my vbac appt at 24 weeks, (so six weeks ago) with the consultant midwife. She was very nice but clearly wanted me to choose a vbac rather than the elcs that I would like, but we couldn't have a full proper chat as they mistakenly had my miscarriage notes rather than my dc1 notes. She asked me to call her back in 2 weeks to give her time to find the notes. She was on holiday. I called her when she got back and left numerous messages. I eventually got through to her, she said she'd call me back. No word. I left it over Christmas. I called her on Wednesday. She said she'd call me back. Nothing.
I'm disappointed it has turned out like this, I was ready to give vbac a consider but this has put me off all over again. I have birth anxiety after my terrible first birth and this is causing me to worry a lot about not having a plan for the birth.
My question is, can I ask to speak to someone else? Should I be getting firmer with her? Any advice?

Yes get firm. I didn't have my appointment til 32 weeks, and tbh came away totally put off vbac. I've spoken to two consultants since then who have sent me in different directions, but now, at 36+2 think.im.back at elcs. Unless I go into labour before which is unlikely.

I'd phone again and be very firm. Good luck!

Are you happy? Is this causing you additional anxiety?

Quite clearly you are not and it is.
Don't be nice about it. This is affecting you. You have a legitimate reason to chase up and push the issue.

Be firm. You are within your rights to do so, and are NOT being difficult if this is making you anxious.

Telephone the labour ward and ask to speak to the Supervisor of Midwives. She is the head midwife on duty that day and they are great at sorting out issues. When I couldn't get a straight answer to some important vbac questions, she arranged someone to call me an hour later to talk it all through.