VBAC fear :(

[verytiredmummy1]

Sorry to post again. I had an EMCS with my first and now a year on I was trying for a VBAC with my second. Until this week where I had. A complete panic and changed my mind to an elective section. I can't even remember why I wanted a VBAC to start with.
If you are going for a VBAC what are your reasons? I've got myself really worked up!! X

Hi, I've seen you on the VBAC support threads. I will be trying for a VBAC in roughly 5 weeks time.
My reasons are purely practical - I really don't fancy the recovery from a CS with a marauding 2yo to deal with as well as a newborn! I live in a flat over a shop and the thought of having to manage all the stairs with a toddler as well does not fill me with joy!
And in my case, although I know this doesn't apply to everyone and depends why you had a CS last time, I'm pretty sure that this birth won't be worse than my last one. Last time, I had a very long (40+ hour) labour, got to 10 cms, pushed for more than 2 hours, had a failed ventouse and a very very stuck baby. This time, if things look like they are going wrong again, I'll be getting a CS much earlier and won't end up so knackered.

I guess whether a VBAC or an ELCS is better for you depends on your experience in your first delivery and the reasons for it. What has prompted this panic? Has someone said something to you or is this a worry that has been growing over time? Is it the pressure of having to make a decision and the worry of making the "wrong" one? Can you pinpoint exactly what it is that is making you worry about the VBAC?

My last birth sounds almost identical to yours and was then followed by an EMCS under GA.
I read something about higher stillbirth rates with VBAC than ELCS and whilst my midwife dismissed this as still an extremely rare occurance I keep panicking thinking I will regret my choice to VBAC :(

My main worry is about the health of the baby too. I can't help worrying that something bad will happen and I will regret not going for an ELCS :(

How many weeks are you verytired ? You could be at a point where you would be worrying generally?

There is a 75% success rate with VBACS and should be a good option if all is well. Have you tried the VBAC CDs/ downloads from natal hypnotherapy? I've been using them and they helped me get over any anxiety from the previous c section and see each birth differently.

I have been aiming for VBAC but I'm 41+3 today with no signs so I could be looking at an ELCS this week anyway.

I had an EMCS with my first (undiagnosed breech) and a VBAC with my second. I wanted to aim for VBAC mostly because of the better recovery, and also because I didn't have a health reason not to, if you see what I mean. I found my EMCS traumatic in a way, I think this was mostly the shock, coupled with a crap time after with a baby that didn't feed etc, Which contributed to my PND.

If the circumstances are good (baby in a good position, for example) and you labour spontaneously, you could always see how things go, with the option of asking for a Cs if you feel you can't go through with it? I arrived at hospital in labour and they asked if I wanted to go ahead, or a CS, and I said I wanted to aim for VBAC, but I think their offer of a CS was a genuine one.

I was terrified of a VBAC, the midwife dismissed me and actually called me pathetic. As it turned out DC2 was full breech too so had another section.
The recovery was tough with a toddler as well, I can't deny that, I think because I just couldn't take it easy with a two year old. But I was silly, I drove us to the park and walked us round after 2 1/2 weeks