Had my DS (first child) last Thursday.
All went fine (well, you know, it was still childbirth so it's all relative but you know what I mean!) except I came out of it with an episiotomy, and separately a 2nd degree tear somewhere on the inside.
DS did have a head on the 98th centile at the scan so I knew both were a possibility and beforehand the idea horrified me but frankly the reality hasn't been that bad at all.
Healing and stitches have been fine (touch wood!!!) I'm taking it easy but still able to sit, pass urine without any stinging etc etc.
So what's playing on my mind is I found out in the past couple of days it's not usual to have an episiotomy without clear reason. Is that true? My pushing stage was 40 minutes, DS was not distressed as far as I know, there were no forceps or ventouse. The midwife did not consult a doctor first (I gave consent but of course I'd have given consent to anything at that point).
I feel like I must have been cut 'just in case'. Should this bother me or am I making a fuss about nothing? I can't decide whether I should be following up and asking questions or if it's not that big a deal and I should just leave it. Especially as the recovery has actually been ok so far.