I posted this in my antenatal group but didn't get replies. Basically I'm 32 weeks and had a doctors appointment today to discuss options for labour and was told that there's no way I'll be allowed to go to the birth centre as I had a third degree tear last time. I guess I understand the reasons and its better to be safe than sorry but I did have my heart set on the birth centre. I didn't get the chance last time because it was full on the day. However I can deal with that.
What I'm most concerned about is whether to go for a vb or cs. The doctor said that if you've had a 3rd degree and have another the risk of long term incontinence is higher. The doctor also said that I can ask for a cs at any point leading up to my due date because of the tear and that some women would rather choose that option than take the risk. Did any of you have a 3rd or 4th degree tear with your first? What did you do/what are you planning on doing this time? Any experiences appreciated. I'm very confused 