How long before you could stop your pee mid-flow?

[MayimBialik]

8 weeks post-partum after suffering a 3rd degree tear. I was initially shocked after giving birth to find that my pee just "fell out" when I went to the toilet. Luckily no wetting myself incidents but certainly felt like I could do if not careful.

It still can't stop my pee mid flow although, after doing lots of pelvic floor exercises control seems to have come back a bit.

Just wanted to know how long it took others before they could stop mid-flow?

By the way, it's not something you should try often as can lead to infection

Hiya and well done for getting this far

I'm not much help - had a v small 2nd degree tear this time and two previous deliveries with larger ones, but I have found it quite worrying all three times how easy it was to lose control - this time I had a chest infection both before and after giving birth and every time I coughed, I would wet myself a bit.

I was so scared it would go on and on. I'm now 10 days pp and it's not happened for several days - the cough has got much better. I am doing PFEs a bit but not enough.

I think gradually, very gradually you DO get back that control. I only had problems before now when on a trampoline! Otherwise it's fine.

I had a friend with a 3rd degree tear and she had no control in either department, and had to have an operation and then was fine - she had an elective cs the second time.

best of luck and don't worry, it will be Ok xx

I could stop mid flow immediately after giving birth...but had a problem with getting the wee out as really had to squeeze....GP said this was due to everything being swollen and healing up down there and the fact I had had a catheter in. I think all women get some kind of discomfort down there after childbirth but it should go away after a couple of months. Keep up the pelvic floor exercises.

About 6 months. Had c section.

Just this month - LO is 8.5 months old! But, to be fair, I have NEVER been very good at stopping mid-flow, even before giving birth.

But, I have started doing 'reverse crunches' for my abs this month whcih has improved things alot.

It took around 4-5 months. I saw a physio as had a few incontinence issues with laughing & sneezing. I was told the a enrage time is around a y

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Around a year and that was if you did not pelvic floors at all. HTH

I have no idea I'm afraid as I never tried this!

Am in France where we all get physio for the pelvic floor and from memory we don't even start until 6 or 8 weeks PP.

I do remember being worried about pooing because for months when I had to go I had to go (much to DH's bemusement!) and I was worried that when I went back to work I wouldn't be able to. Went back when DS was 6 months and no longer had the problem, although I do still have less warning than before giving bith (DS is 15 months).

Hi there. Congratulations and well done on giving birth!

I had pre that just fell out and no sensation of when I needed to go to the toilet. One midwife told me to try to stop mid flow and another told me I shouldn't! When DS was 5 days old I was readmitted for tests but nothing was done. After a few weeks there was very little improvement so I was referred back to the hospital, checked for prolapse (there was none) and had my pelvic floor checked. They score you out of 5, 5 is the best, zero is the worst and I got 2ish and was told the best I could ever hope for was a 4 (so my career working in those bars in Bangkok is now over :) ). Anyway, over 6 month doing pelvic floor exercises every day it gradually got better. The sensation came back quickly. DS is now 8 months old and I still have stress incontinence so I wee when I run or sneeze. I've just got a referral to a specialist physio.

The point of this story is that it will gradually get better over months and you need to do pelvic floor exercises. The NHS can be pretty rubbish about helping (one doc told me just to buy Tena ladies and live with it until I'd finished having children then they'd do an operation) so be really assertive about being seen by a specialist and getting referred to physio. I really really hope everything sorts itself out on it's own but if it doesn't get help, don't suffer.

All the best xxx