who'll look after my first?

[talie]

I've recently moved to a new area and don't know anyone here. My friends and family live a good distance away from me.

I'm beginning to worry about who I can get to look after my dd (20 mnths) when I go into labour. I would hate for it to be a complete stranger as she is quite shy. She was six weeks early and came quite quickly so I'm not sure my friends/family would make it here in time.

Any suggestions please?

Hi Talie
Can any of your friends/family come and stay with you for the weeks leading up to your due date?

Hi, Talie, I'm thinking the same myself. DD is same age as your dd, and she was also early and a fast labour.

I am thinking of A - a home birth with a doula, so dh can be with dd. Or B - a hospital birth with a doula. I just don't think any family/friends could get to us fast enough.
Not sure how to find a doula, am going to investigate. Dinny

dinny - pupuce is a doula who posts on here....
see if you can speak to her!
good luck

Oh, thanks - forgot that. Will ask her about it. Hoping a doula will help me bf too - I failed miserably last time.

Talie, some hospitals have family delivery suites too - I'm sure ours did. Hope I'm not just imagining that with demented pregnancy brain!

There is no reason why she can't go with you to the hospital. The mw's are used to it. dh/dp can entertain her. A lot of hospitals have a creche / play area on childrens ward.

hth

Thanks for your help.

Another thought is to see if there are any MN's around the area where you live. They seem like a friendly bunch and if you got friendly with one you might be able to call on her in an emergency!!!

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