Eviction time!!

[69bex69]

I need this baby out now! I'm 38 weeks today but for the last week I've had cramps and back pain and very little sleep. My skin is so stretched it hurts. I can barely walk as baby is engaged and my hips are killing me. When baby moves it hurts. I'm sure he's headbutting my cervix!

I so need this baby out! I'm sure he wants out too as I can feel him push down when moves. My cervix was still high and closed last week but I'm hoping all this is my cervix dilating. Will request an internal on Wednesday and find out!

Can you request to have an internal at 38 weeks to see how things are progressing? I have my MW weds and would be interested to know.

I've had so many pains and barely any sleep here too.. Will do anything to get this baby out !

No harm asking. My mw did last time andmy waters broke the next day!

Please bear in mind that an internal won't give you any more indication of when thing are going to happen. You can be a couple of centimetres dilated for a couple of weeks or your cervix may show no signs of 'being ready' for labour and yet later that day it coul all kick off.

True but any progress will make these pains seem worth it even if it is just psychosomatic!

That's ok then, just wanted to make sure you knew. Sounds like for you it'll be beneficial. Hope you don't have to wait too much longer!

I know what you mean bex
I don't think my MW would but no harm in asking I guess.
Bouncing on my ball all evening and praying the end is in sight!

As a mw, I would probably decllne to do a ve at 38 weeks. It won't make the baby come out any quicker and might raise false hope. Instead I would have a sympathetic conversation about coping with this tedious phase. Distraction and comfort measures are the key. Short visits from nice friends bearing food,dvd box sets, cooking, if you like it, internet supermarket shopping so you are well stocked, books, short pleasure jaunts, haircut, manicure. Painkillers when sore, heat or cold packs, decent pillows, mattress topper. OH sleeping in spare room if necessary?..

Not sure what a ve is? Vaginal exam? Y not?

VE is vaginal exam. The reason I would decline is as above. It isn't clinically useful and would lead to too much "overthinking". It should only be done, in my opinion, where it will affect my clinical management eg when diagnosing labour or when induction is a possibility. in a low risk case, induction wouldn't be considered before 40 weeks for sound reasons, so no reason to rummage about.

So what's the point in checking for engagement? Arguable, that equally can mean nothing until labour starts and can raise false hope. I'd hardly describe this as a tedious phase. I'm getting 2-4hrs sleep a night, and those stupid and expensive pillows don't work for me, only painkillers till they wear off at 2-4am. I'm finding it hard to drive and have 3 other children with all their clubs to take them to; beavers, brownies, swimming and chess club as well as a 15mth baby. I'm now completely run down and a bit of good news would be very welcomed. And what if I'm told no change? Baby is no longer 2/5 engaged and is still back to back? Then I guess its time to scrub the kitchen floor and maybe a epo up the vag

How did your appointment go?