So we went in on Monday, and after all that 'umming' and 'ahhing' over vba2c or elcs we went for the elcs. Baby girl was born at 10.42. She was 7lb 7oz (tiny compared to older DD and DS!) and is beautiful. I have had a bit of trouble with pain relief but apart from that everything has been fine. I think now it's all over with I'm pleased about my decision. Mainly because of the amount of time it took to deliver her. We were in theatre for well over an hour! I dread to think what may have happened in an emergency situation.
Midwife here will finish post later.