My child was asking me for an advice and I genuinely don’t know what to give him but here’s his story:
My son was 15 y/o when this happened, his first ever unofficial relationship of months ended without him wanting it and he briefly jumped to the other relationship. That relationship went about 1 year and he was the first girl that he introduced me officially.
They broke up because of an issue that circulated their school and I saw my son truly devastated about it and that was the time I sent him to therapy, shortly after that he said that he went back to his first ever unofficial relationship that his ex girlfriend was worried about and they hooked up but he said that he didn’t give his full consent and only went with it because he said it was kind of like the way he “cope”.
He then ended things with this girl because he figured that he wanted her ex-girlfriend back and he did all things of some sort (he courted her once again, begged, even dragged me to win her back and so i was supportive) They got back together and in the span of that relationship for 3 years, the girl kept asking about what he was up to when they were on a clear break, and she was specifically asking about his first unofficial relationship, he said that he denied, lied, and shrugged it off multiple times.
Until just 2 months ago, he admitted to her everything, he also told that along with that girl, he flirted with bunch of other girls just to cope because he was truly devastated, I am the witness. But now, my son is asking me for an advice because of continuous harassment he is been receiving from his girl (verbal mostly), he said he is trying all his best but the girl feels disgusted and cheated on even if they were on a clear break.
I saw few cuts on his wrist and it is making me so worried, I saw it only today and I might’ve overlooked the fact that he keeps his hoodie on for a month now and that might be the reason.
Please give me an advice so I won’t mishandle this as his mom.