I feel I can't cope

[Pashmina67]

I look after this beautiful little boy who just doesn't stop for breath, he's like a whippet & kangaroo rolled into one, he's now 4 as athe grandmother I observe a lot he's become so aggressive, he now throws his head back or bites or pulls a demented face before headbutting floor, he's changed so much my daughter in law decided when he was 2 she was gay so was already with the lover my son was fine it was over anyway, she now continues to drop him every weekend but leaves him, always a good excuse, she turns up when she likes but thinks we will all quiver as the new partner resembles the honey monster, could this new aggression BTW he does not fall asleep be down to physical punishment and what should I do

Your post in very confusing

So your grandson has developed aggressive behaviour over the last two years.

This has happened since your daughter in law came out as gay and you think your dgc's behaviour may be linked to your dil's new partner and possible cruelty.

I think you need to forget about her being gay which you don't seem comfortable with.

Look at the facts instead. Does the child have any bruises or marks? Is the child able to tell you what is wrong? Have you raised your concerns with your dil?

If you believe there is evidence of child cruelty you could report anonymously to social services
Your grandchild will start school next month so he will be assessed by his teachers as well.

So sorry if it was confusing lack of sleep the baby has autism he's never said an understanding word, I know he's communicating in his unique way, I'm just wondering could the aggression be linked to himself being smacked

I really don't care about her being gay I mention it as there's been a change in his routine (the comment honey monster was really due to her size but unnecessary)