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Really need advice for 14 year old girl

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candyqueen888 · 01/09/2023 14:12

Please help if you can. My 14 year old daughter has really gone off the rails. Her dad died when I was pregnant and I have a very long term partner who she sees as a dad. He doesn't live with us. Over the past year her behaviour has really gone downhill. She has been vaping in her room, stealing, asking me for money and when I refuse she kicks and punches me, spits in my face or breaks stuff. She has been expelled from school for violence and bullying. Police are involved as are social services who don't really help, just lock her up for a bit and talk to her. Its like she changed overnight from a lovely well mannered girl to a monster. She's now staying out all night and told me she has been taking drugs and has been having sex with a man of 31. She laughs and says she can do whatever she likes and nobody can stop her. I am at the end of my rope and I can't get any proper help, social services said foster carers won't take her and GPs are reluctant to medicate. I honestly feel like a failure as a mother right now.

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Heybearu · 02/09/2023 07:56

Oh this sounds heartbreaking.
Have you spoke to social services about the drugs and sex with older men? It sounds like she could be being sexually exploited. Often these gangs groom with drugs. Barnados do work around this in some areas so may be worth a call. Social services should be able to help with charities who might help with support workers. Have you been to the police? That might open up support more quickly xx I think being honest with her telling her you love her and are worried for her, you want her to be safe.

blackcandle · 03/09/2023 11:43

Op I feel very very sorry that you re in this horrendous situation. I feel at least the children services should involved.

candyqueen888 · 07/09/2023 14:51

blackcandle · 03/09/2023 11:43

Op I feel very very sorry that you re in this horrendous situation. I feel at least the children services should involved.

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They are involved.

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candyqueen888 · 07/09/2023 14:53

Heybearu · 02/09/2023 07:56

Oh this sounds heartbreaking.
Have you spoke to social services about the drugs and sex with older men? It sounds like she could be being sexually exploited. Often these gangs groom with drugs. Barnados do work around this in some areas so may be worth a call. Social services should be able to help with charities who might help with support workers. Have you been to the police? That might open up support more quickly xx I think being honest with her telling her you love her and are worried for her, you want her to be safe.

Unfortunately both police and social services are involved and so far have just offered to take her ice skating! I have asked for more support but both services are useless.

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